How much do you value physical intimacy in a relationship?

Sometimes I feel it’s overvalued but other times I find that it’s a major factor in the success of the relationship.

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A year ago my wife went through the menopause. Her sex drive has gone down a lot but from time to time she is in the mood and sex is always very good.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@nevergiveup I wonder if this is sort of why women in mature age range become a lot more self-focused (selfish if you will) and feel that everything is about them and you're not good enough (including in itimacy/romantic terms) unless everything is for their pleasure and they don't get obligated to give back?

Poetryinmotion51 · 46-50, F

@zonavar68 that’s very unfair and a big generalization

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@Poetryinmotion51 Generalisation maybe, but I see the selfishness almost in totality in all the mature women I've tried to approach in person and online (when I still was trying that method to find people). I know that's still a small subset overall, but I can only go off my personal experiences. My second ex is a classic case of that once she became pregnant with our daughter and it became much worse after the birth.