Anxiety is killing me

If I didn't know my husband as well as I do id think he was making me anxious on purpose.
But the truth is that his brain runs a mile a minute and he can't help but plan for all the many (however unlikely) ways in which any given situation could blow up in our faces. He has to run through everything I do and point out all the things I could have done different and arguably better, and why what I did was short sighted and could come back to bite us in the ass....
And I'm left feeling like a idiot who never learns and always does the wrong thing
But he honestly is just someone who never stops analysing and planning and so on

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Richard65 · M

You're married, so tell him the effect he's having on you because he needs to know. You don't have to put up with that, and it'll push you apart. His habit of over analysing stuff shouldn't lead to him lecturing you. You're excusing his behaviour, but it's classic coercion and control. Put a stop to it. It's damaging you.

Vengabus · 36-40

@Richard65 I don't think he even means to lecture me, he just always feels like he has to control situations to prevent catastrophies from happening

Richard65 · M

@Vengabus I know you love him, but you're making excuses for his terrible behaviour. It is coercion and control and he has no right to make you feel anxious. You even felt the need to post your feelings on here. He needs to stop. There's no excuse for his behaviour. You're an adult and he's treating you like a child. Tell him to stop.