Why am I crying over a dirt bag?

Make it stop please 😂

Is this what healing from an abusive relationship feels like? Ups and downs? Aching for someone you don't even want, because they never really existed in the first place?

I know one thing for sure, that was an eye opener, and I will never let it happen again.

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

One of the most difficult things about breaking up with someone is sometimes realizing that the person you were in love with was an idealization in your mind, not necessarily the actual person, but that the loss of that idealization is just as painful as if it were real. Losing the person means losing the possibility of ever realizing that idealized version of them that you were in love.

It's a legitimate loss, and you have to allow yourself to feel what you feel for as long as you need.

MarbleMarvel

@DunningKruger thank you 🖤