i peaked at your account and it seems like you may be battling some insecurity. in another post you were worried about whether or not his ex is prettier than you. here you're very worried about his phone. how long have you been dating him?
i understand to some extent, bc if i was dating someone and they were very actively trying to keep me off their phone id feel quite weird about it. but ive personally never wanted to go through a boyfriends phone. and, personally, id never want someone to go through my phone. i feel weird even letting my besties on my phone. its my private box where i store my private thoughts, bank info, i have sw/reddit on it.. my pages are completely clean but id never want someone irl to view it. theyre my escape from irl pressure and if i knew i was being monitored id just feel invaded (and hurt because they don't trust me)
i think you need to take a step back and address how you feel about yourself. not just bc men aint shi, but i promise you will not feel fulfilled in any relationship until you love yourself. they can love you with every fiber of their being, but if you dont learn how to love yourself you will never shed the weight of this worry. and with that in mind, while a good partner will always want you to be a happy and confident person, it's not their job to make you into that person
practice positive thinking, write down positive thoughts, say nice things to yourself. its so corny but so easy and a very good first step to practicing your confidence. i promise that you can have more security in yourself, and with that you will find happier relationships
