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I feel my partner and I have drifted apart and I'm wondering if there is anything more to it than that on her part. I have already drafted a list of things I want to ask but I want to do it in a way that I can get the honest answers.
I am going to pre warn her and ask if she is ready to talk and whatever her answers are I will still treat her the same and do the things for her that I had promised (such as her tax return which she doesn't like doing) in the hope that this allows her to be honest.
The things I'm asking so far are:
How does she see our relationship
Has she been with or dated anybody else (the obvious one)

Does anybody have any ideas of what else to include or how to ask a specific question?
I don't want to upset her as she is a good person even if it does turn out she has been doing things I don't like.
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Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
Go talk to a divorce lawyer, and start hiding money. You have to prepare for the worst.
GeniUs · 56-60, M
@Quetzalcoatlus Luckily we're not married but I see us as partners I think maybe she doesn't.
Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
@GeniUs You live together?
GeniUs · 56-60, M
@Quetzalcoatlus Good question, we did for about 10 years but we had a big disagreement about 4 years ago and she moved out, after about a month we were back to where we were in the relationship but this last 18 months or so things have slowly changed in a way you don't notice. Then suddenly she's doing things without me and it seems obvious something has changed now.
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
@GeniUs Depending on your state and common law, you may still need a lawyer when it comes to dividing assets even though you were not married.
GeniUs · 56-60, M
@dancingtongue It's ok I'm in the UK we don't have common law.
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
@GeniUs That's funny! Our entire legal system is rooted in British common law. I know what you mean. The semantics are just funny.
Wiseacre · F
@Quetzalcoatlus wow, how cynical!