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NeptuneRising I became friends with a young lady and we both let things naturally progress. She had just graduated with her Masters degree in accounting; I was recently honourably discharged from overseas Navy Combat Camera active duty. We met on the set of a feature film we were both on working as freelance contractors; each working on our first motion picture. Our initial meeting was less than cordial. To her, I was the pain in the ass who wouldn’t stop what I was doing to fill out payroll paperwork. To me, she was the pain in the ass who couldn’t wait until the end of the day when I would have time to read what I was filling out and signing. We became platonic friends during the shoot. After the film was over, we spoke about possibly dating, but her next job took her to a New York television show. I was headed to a Los Angeles, to work on a movie for television. We spoke on the phone every night and continued to try to get together for almost a year. “Distance makes the heart grow fonder”. Our schedules finally allowed us three days together. We enjoyed being with one another and found ourselves romantically involved, believing this was the greatest feeling ever, for those three short days. She was off to California, to work on a television series and I was headed to the Philippines, to work on a feature film for six months. At that time, it was extremely difficult and expensive to communicate by phone overseas. When I got back to the states, she was seeing someone else while working and living in Toronto. I was headed for a job in Los Angeles.
I guess what I’m trying to share is, live in the moment for yourself and know you will meet the right person at the proper time. Don’t try to force anything to fit and don’t sell yourself short of the goals you seek to achieve. We have remained close friends for over 30 years. We were both married, (her, about six months to an abusive spouse; I was married 28 years to a narcissist crazy woman). We both had children, and we both divorced from our spouses. We recently met up in a city we were both passing through at the same time for five days. It was awesome, but not the same as we hoped it would be. We both decided to remain friends and to not ruin our very close friendship by trying to force something more than that. To this day, she is my emergency contact, if something should happen to me. I remain her pain in the ass with paperwork she might get stuck with, if something happens to me.
Be your independent and strong self. The right life partner is worth the wait. Don’t rush; enjoy your independence and life until what’s his name offers you to share his what’s his last name.
