Rant,sad,Advice!??? Idk….

So yesterday I found out that some girl at my husbands work gave him her number and he text her and he said they just flirted I couldn’t actually see the messages… other than the ones he didn’t delete at the end something like “I decided I can’t go threw with this I don’t want to break my family over lust” it’s the 3rd time he’s done something like this. Non the less I’ve decided in time I can probably heal and get over this I mean we have 2 boys together and I don’t want to leave him over this. After all people arnt perfect and he did choose me and his family over and affair… but I hate that it even come that close to making a choice… his coworkers were encouraging him and he even went as far as to try to download app hiders and stuff which is how I found out.

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

If it's the third time, he's going to keep at it. At this point you should leave him or figure out what rules are acceptable for you in an open marriage. Because he's going to keep doing this so long as you keep forgiving him. If you leave him, then you don't have to deal with it anymore, the bandaid is ripped off. If you open it, then maybe you can at least get some communication about who he is with and when so you at least know when you have to worry about STDs or him getting someone else pregnant.

You've just got to figure out what you can live with the best. I mean, you can always keep on going as you are, but that feels like the worst of both worlds to me.