my boyfriend dumped me bc im unstable he said hes tired of me for being unstable and it isnt...

The first isn't usually the last

Well lots to say here, I don't really know his character. He could honestly believe that you're unstable but he could also be gaslighting you too and I highly recommend looking up what gaslighting is. I mean even if you do have issues, he should be more understanding and it's really hard to tell without much information.

But I don't really know this person nor have any information so I'll assume he's of good character. If he's of good character, I want to say that sometimes you have to accept he won't come back but you can work on yourself too. Even if you feel dysfunctional you can learn ways around things. You're young I'm guessing and it's not the end all be all.

You say he's the perfect bf but is he really? There's lots of men out there. Work on yourself, work on being authentic... others will come along.

Reject · 26-30, M

The perfect bf would accept you for you. I think you can find that someday.

Richard65 · M

And this guy attends church regularly? That says a lot, to be honest. Not very Christian behaviour. Look at it this way, he doesn't sound like a reliable man. He's at least told you it's over and he doesn't want to see you anymore. Just accept that and try to move on. He wasn't what you need in your life. You dodged a bullet.