my boyfriend dumped me bc im unstable

he said hes tired of me for being unstable and it isnt gonna work and hes not even gaining anything from the relationship and that he doesnt wanna talk yo me anymore

i dont know how to cope with this because he was the perfect bf, my first everything and im gnna see him every month for church idk how to cope i cried sm and sm and i js cant inagine my life without him

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SatanBurger · 36-40, F

Well lots to say here, I don't really know his character. He could honestly believe that you're unstable but he could also be gaslighting you too and I highly recommend looking up what gaslighting is. I mean even if you do have issues, he should be more understanding and it's really hard to tell without much information.

But I don't really know this person nor have any information so I'll assume he's of good character. If he's of good character, I want to say that sometimes you have to accept he won't come back but you can work on yourself too. Even if you feel dysfunctional you can learn ways around things. You're young I'm guessing and it's not the end all be all.

You say he's the perfect bf but is he really? There's lots of men out there. Work on yourself, work on being authentic... others will come along.