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Am I making a big deal?

I have been chatting with a guy for about two weeks and long story short today I asked him when is the last time he has been on a date and he said just last night I met with someone for a coffee date. I was not expecting for him to say that and anywho it really triggered me because I thought it was kind rude even though I asked he was honest. I dunno I guess I would have just not said anything about it.
So? He was honest with you in letting you know he met someone for a coffee. So what?

So, my answer to your question is, yeah, you're blowing it out of proportion. You had met him just two weeks prior. What are you expecting of him?
Alisha233 · 31-35, F
You were triggered because it hurt your feelings.. perhaps slightly jealous?
On the alternative hand... would you rather had him lie to you?
Can you take the truth for granted when you ask for honesty.?
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
Thankfully he’s honest, that’s a good sign! If you’re only in the talking stage him going on dates is normal and you should be too. I know it’s hard and confusing and in ways it sucks but until you start spending time together and have some pertinent conversations about the 2 of you, this is what is going to happen.
You have here to vent to when you’re feeling a certain way about it though.
pdockal · 56-60, M
When he's honest it triggered you ?
If he lied and you found out you'd be angry ?
How absurd !
How do we navigate that?
This is why there's an issue
WE CAN'T WIN
@pdockal this ⬆️, sadly.
We have to learn to navigate relationships, (and life), with a degree of flexibility and discernent - pick the most important thing that worries you ...and deal with that. Everything else is secondary .
Pick your fucks to give so to say .

It's not easy to learn.
pdockal · 56-60, M
@OogieBoogie

It's common sence ... you can't have it both ways ... why do you think lots of men screw up relationships ? This is a prefect example of the mine field we have to navigate ... yes some men are just jackasses
@pdockal I'd say it'd just people being jackasses.
Some have too high ideals,
Some can't think beyond themselves .

Everything in life is a set of choices, picking the lesser evil, learning that some things are just not worth the fucks given in the big picture .

It's all drama, drama , drama.
When ....given a little reflection and space, it could be peace tranquility and a lil, bit of gratitude 🤗
Alisha233 · 31-35, F
If you like to over think things...he could have said it to make you like him more too, for women knowing other women find him desirable could increase your interest in him 😈
SW-User
You haven't had a first date with him?
JaneCas · 26-30, F
@SW-User he asked me last week to meet for coffee to and I could not make it than he just asked me yesterday if I wanted to meet this week and I said sure let’s do Friday and than he responded by saying he coming on with cold so he’s sorry he can’t do this weekend after all.
SW-User
@JaneCas He sounds like an honest guy. I've gotten sick in the middle of a date before.
JaneCas · 26-30, F
@SW-User yes I am just thrown off by him menuhe just met someone last night for coffee. I guess when I date I just talk to one person as a time
I suppose think of it this way :

You asked him a question -
He answered honestly
He answered with and answer you didn't like .

Which is more important ?
His honesty ?
Or the fact you didn't like what he told you ?

And ....

Would it have been better if he lied and told you what you wanted to hear ?
@OogieBoogie That would be a perfect exercise in building a codependent relationship.
@PhoenixPhail exactly .

You have to find where your values lie.
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
He is keep his options open i guess which is fair enough if you are not even dating yet.
An honest date? Nah, not fallin’ for THAT!
Teirdalin · 31-35
Sounds like you're in a just friends situation?
TheGentleGiant · 36-40, M
Yes all guys are liars
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
You’re just talking at this point so it seems like you haven’t discussed being exclusive so you are making a big deal.
A major big deal, you never mentioned being on a date with him yourself, just chatting, and a coffee date is more just casual than formal.
I should add that it has only been two weeks, not enough time to form past hello/hello.

 
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