Am I making a big deal? I have been chatting with a guy for about two weeks and long story...

So? He was honest with you in letting you know he met someone for a coffee. So what?

So, my answer to your question is, yeah, you're blowing it out of proportion. You had met him just two weeks prior. What are you expecting of him?

Alisha233 · 31-35, F

You were triggered because it hurt your feelings.. perhaps slightly jealous?
On the alternative hand... would you rather had him lie to you?
Can you take the truth for granted when you ask for honesty.?

Jeephikelove · 51-55, F

Thankfully he’s honest, that’s a good sign! If you’re only in the talking stage him going on dates is normal and you should be too. I know it’s hard and confusing and in ways it sucks but until you start spending time together and have some pertinent conversations about the 2 of you, this is what is going to happen.
You have here to vent to when you’re feeling a certain way about it though.

pdockal · 56-60, M

When he's honest it triggered you ?
If he lied and you found out you'd be angry ?
How absurd !
How do we navigate that?
This is why there's an issue
WE CAN'T WIN

Alisha233 · 31-35, F

If you like to over think things...he could have said it to make you like him more too, for women knowing other women find him desirable could increase your interest in him 😈

SW-User

You haven't had a first date with him?

OogieBoogie · F

I suppose think of it this way :

You asked him a question -
He answered honestly
He answered with and answer you didn't like .

Which is more important ?
His honesty ?
Or the fact you didn't like what he told you ?

And ....

Would it have been better if he lied and told you what you wanted to hear ?

Beautywithin · 36-40, F

He is keep his options open i guess which is fair enough if you are not even dating yet.

Mamapolo2016 · F

An honest date? Nah, not fallin’ for THAT!

Teirdalin · 31-35

Sounds like you're in a just friends situation?

TheGentleGiant · 36-40, M

Yes all guys are liars

Mikeydino2006 · 46-50, M

😘

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

You’re just talking at this point so it seems like you haven’t discussed being exclusive so you are making a big deal.

NativePortlander1970

A major big deal, you never mentioned being on a date with him yourself, just chatting, and a coffee date is more just casual than formal.

NativePortlander1970

I should add that it has only been two weeks, not enough time to form past hello/hello.