Am I making a big deal?

I have been chatting with a guy for about two weeks and long story short today I asked him when is the last time he has been on a date and he said just last night I met with someone for a coffee date. I was not expecting for him to say that and anywho it really triggered me because I thought it was kind rude even though I asked he was honest. I dunno I guess I would have just not said anything about it.

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pdockal · 56-60, M

When he's honest it triggered you ?
If he lied and you found out you'd be angry ?
How absurd !
How do we navigate that?
This is why there's an issue
WE CAN'T WIN

OogieBoogie · F

@pdockal this ⬆️, sadly.
We have to learn to navigate relationships, (and life), with a degree of flexibility and discernent - pick the most important thing that worries you ...and deal with that. Everything else is secondary .
Pick your fucks to give so to say .

It's not easy to learn.

pdockal · 56-60, M

@OogieBoogie

It's common sence ... you can't have it both ways ... why do you think lots of men screw up relationships ? This is a prefect example of the mine field we have to navigate ... yes some men are just jackasses

OogieBoogie · F

@pdockal I'd say it'd just people being jackasses.
Some have too high ideals,
Some can't think beyond themselves .

Everything in life is a set of choices, picking the lesser evil, learning that some things are just not worth the fucks given in the big picture .

It's all drama, drama , drama.
When ....given a little reflection and space, it could be peace tranquility and a lil, bit of gratitude 🤗