Trauma Bond

3 months ago i left my toxic relationship, i went NC and thought i had been healing but i started feeling guilty i left the relationship and have been missing her. I have been thinking that if i had stayed longer maybe i could have made her change even though it felt like she was getting constantly irritated by my presence. I read somewhere that it i might be in a trauma bond, I just want to know if any other has been in a trauma bond, how they got out of it, and how long it took them.

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bugeye · 26-30, F

Let me be clear,dont feel guilty. you did the absolute best thing in leaving a toxic relationship. Things like that you cant change in a person so staying and hoping things change would have just gotten you more abuse. Take time for yourself, learn to love yourself first and foremost and maybe someone who will appreciate you the way you deserve will come along.

I hope your healing continues. <3