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New guy giving me snappy attitude?

Had a long day at new job. Maybe I’m highly sensitive and I needed time to decompress. Then the guy I’m talking to and going on dates with (about 6 months) calls and says can we go to the zoo this week. (The zoo is over an hour away and I’m working full time this new job taking up my whole day) I said we can go sometime soon I gotta get situated with my new hours. Then he sarcastically said “oh I know it’s gonna be a few months until I see you again.” (I don’t know if he said this cause he was feeling rejected that I didn’t wanna go to the zoo, but then I felt hurt when he said this to me because I wanna feel connection.) then my mother was talking to me at the same time he was talking so I didn’t really hear what he said so I just said “what are you having for dinner” and he sarcastically said oh nice way to change the subject. But I wasn’t trying to change the subject my brain was just overwhelmed with everyone talking and because I was trying to see what two people were saying I couldn’t really comprehend anything they were saying. I couldn’t even pull my brain cells together to tell him that. Then I was just kinda annoyed with his attitude. He said his brother wants a family and kids and he wants to be around that so his brother is upset, and then I told him to say to him that everything will work out. (He knows my ex cheated on me and his brother cheated on his wife he screwed up his life for a dumb decision and they got divorced) so he though I meant that everything was okay with me and my ex and like were talking and getting back together but then I explained how no I’m just saying that so he can encourage his brother to keep moving forward and have hope. This was the first time I felt such a snappy attitude from him and I don’t know what to think of it…

Then I just started crying and got anxious and didn’t feel well emotionally after talking.
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Mindful · 56-60, F
If he is like that now, imagine how sarcastic he will be in the future. Tell him what was really going on, and depending on his reaction (sorry or more sarcasm) your gut response is probably right on.
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@Mindful this was the first time he was sarcastic so I’m confused what was going on
Coralmist · 41-45, F
Maybe he didn't mean to talk th at way but I would feel low. This is the first time he acted snappy though?
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Fifidog I would just explain over time "I like to get to know someone and not rush." I would say anyone can feel snappy sometimes but hopefully since he was understanding before, it could have been just that one time.
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@Coralmist let’s hope so. Is 6 months taking things too slow? I don’t wanna rush into anything I don’t know is the best fit for me yet
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Fifidog I don't think its too slow...I think it is a good time to get to know someone..I know I would need that.
Doesnt sound like a healthy relationship. You deserve better.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
Sounds like hormones. Guys get them too and youth maybe. it take time to acquire all the skills life seems to require. All anyone can do is try to learn as quickly as life teaches and do the best you can on any given day!

Live long and prosper!
If I'm reading right when he said you were changing the subject, wouldn't he say that when he said something you couldnt hear and then you asking about dinner probably was changing the subject. The, six month till I see you again, is a bit worrisome tho.
You need to talk with him, not us.

Or just send him a screen shot of this post.
daydeeo · 61-69, M
Say goodbye, good luck, good riddance. He can find himself another victim. He's manipulating you. Leave him and don't look back

 
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