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It annoys me when my gf gets mad at me for not having sex with her

Like even when I want to.. her acting like that just makes me not want to anymore 😒

We went to two different parties for Saturday. One with my family & one with hers. Once we got home we got in the shower together then laid down afterwards. Everything was fine & we were both talking all happily. I was struggling to stay awake but still trying to talk anyway. Then next thing I know she starts giving me attitude & she turns her back towards me. She refused to tell me why or what's wrong.. she just kept saying "I'm not talking to you because you'd just get mad at me for having feelings". So I'm just like "goddammit wtf 🤦 I didn't even do anything" & she's just like, "yeah that's the problem".

I already know the problem I guess. Anytime I'm tired as hell & fall asleep without initiating sex, she gets mad at me. I like sex of course but when I'm extremely exhausted I just don't have the energy to start it. I still want it too so I'd easily get into it if she started it.. which I tell her all the time. But when she starts giving me attitude instead it just turns me off completely. Like why would I wanna have sex with you after you're treating me like shit? How's that supposed to help put me in the mood?

I got out of bed & came to sleep on the couch instead. Now it's Sunday morning & I'm going home today. Probably early now because I don't feel like dealing with this dumb shit all day 😮‍💨 I'm just tired... Like let me be sleepy sometimes 😭 I never get mad at anybody for not having sex with me so I don't see why women tend to think it's okay to act like that. She could easily start it herself & I'd be into it.. but no. It always has to be ME that starts it 😒
Sometimes I just wanna relax while she initiates it too... I work my ass off these days & hardly get any sleep. Doesn't mean I don't want sex. My body just forces me to rest sometimes 😔 I don't get why I have to be punished for that.
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JustNik · 51-55, F
Sit down when you’re both calm, take her hands, look her in the eye, and say I really wanna talk about this because I’m struggling and I don’t want anything to come between us. Maybe there’s a reason she needs you to initiate. Maybe she doesn’t feel very desirable right now and her self-esteem won’t let her. Maybe you could just land on a place where she can accept that sometimes you’re just tired and happy to just be with her. It’s not what you say so much as how you say it that can help her really believe in you and take it to heart. I hope you two find your way. It will take a lot of that positive can-do attitude of yours. 🤗🤗💞

Ps I know that advice shit is annoying as hell and very presumptuous- I just feel the need to throw it out there just in case it might resonate. Try not to hate me too much. 😂
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@JustNik well she's gotten a little bit better at initiating ever since we talked about it. She always feels weird about it & sometimes she just assumes I'm not interested 🤷 I gotta remind her all the time to stop just assuming shit then running with it. She does say "if you're tired then just say that" but it still doesn't make a difference.
I ain't mad about the advi d though 😌 at least it's relevant. Most people just assume it's a difficult arelationship or that we're struggling which isn't really true
JustNik · 51-55, F
@ChiefJustWalks even great relationships can have their challenges. I’m pulling for you! 😄👍🤗
XDHyperGirlXD1 · 31-35, F
Mood swings 🤭
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@XDHyperGirlXD1 hopefully that's all it is. Sometimes she's fine later... sometimes we gotta talk about it 😭

Disagreements suck
XDHyperGirlXD1 · 31-35, F
@ChiefJustWalks bring her chocolate 😌
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Pregnancy makes us crazy overreactive sometimes. Not an excuse for no self control but is an explanation.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Starcrossed yeah I know.. I'm still not used to it I guess
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
@ChiefJustWalks FWIW, she's probably not used to it either.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Starcrossed yeah, she's not 😅 she keeps telling me she hates how emotional she's been getting over things 😂

It's like we're both re-learning a lot of relationship stuff since it's been a long time that either of us have been involved in anything this serious. It's not bad just hard sometimes
Pregnancy hormones. Cut her some slack
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Notladylike I'm not allowed to blame it on hormones 😅 I did that one time & she's thrown it in my face about 10 times lol
@ChiefJustWalks first rule of hormones. Don’t blame it on the hormones. Out loud it’s like a red rag to a bull
Lilymoon · F
Welcome to the ups and downs of relationships (no pun) 🤭
If you both are willing to work at it it'll take a few years (or more!) before you get into a rhythm of getting to know each other's quirks and shit. hahaha I dunno I'm just saying ya gotta work out the kinks or it ain't gonna work.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Lilymoon "the kinks" lol 🤭 yeah I don't mean to vent here about relationship stuff anymore because anytime I do people start to think everything is always negative... but idk where to vent sometimes 😔 I just wanna be tired without being in trouble for it. That's all
Lilymoon · F
@ChiefJustWalks Yup... I get it. 🤗
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Matt85 · 36-40, M
@jshm2 that shits expensive
Juvia · 22-25, F
I can't really say anything except I'm thankful this isn't me and my partner. Been in something similar with same dynamic and damn. It's a tough one. I hope you guys hold out.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Juvia well yeah of course but we don't resent each other. We always talk about everything after we're cooling down, just to make sure we're not holding on to it
Juvia · 22-25, F
@ChiefJustWalks sorry I assumed stuff 🥲my bads
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Juvia it's all good 😌 all relationships go through stuff but I just try not to make people think it's all bad 😭 I just tend to vent about the bad stuff so nobody really hears the good stuff enough. That's my fault
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
Have you told her this?
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@SkeetSkeet yeah, a few times
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
@ChiefJustWalks keep doing it. 🤗
Punches · 46-50, F
Once we got home we got in the shower together then laid down afterwards.

So you saw each other nude in the shower? 😮 Like no clothes?!

Oh boy, this is the JUICIEST story to come along here in a while!

For real though, it can cause conflicts when one partner wants to get down but the other is not feeling up to it. Pretty normal.
AndrewF · 51-55
Really? I have never turned down the opportunity for sex, you never know when is your last

 
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