Social Media and relationships; My boyfriend keeps following new women on his social media accounts. Am I wrong for not being okay with this?
We’ve been dating for 2 months— I’m a bit introverted and he’s anything but. He’s very social and welcoming to conversation and making new friends but I cannot understand why he feels the continuous need to add them on social media. Whenever we are out and we meet a couple, he has ME add the women we meet—so I’m not understanding why he’s so comfortable adding these “friends” (is what he calls the 1000 people he follows on social media).
Thing about me is, I don’t believe men and women can genuinely be platonic friends. I think it’s very, very rare to meet a man who isn’t waiting for the opportunity to overstep that platonic boundary.
Maybe I’m just insecure… while I recognize the woman I am, I can’t help but feel that these actions are threatening to where I stand (terrible, I know). But my excuse is that this is still fresh and still unwraveling, and perhaps we can some to some sort of understanding… even after the 5th conversation regarding this same topic.
I just need some reassurance, really. I wish I didn’t lack the confidence to trust in myself even though I kind of already know what answers to expect.
I’ve heard tons of excuses why guys do it. But I believe if you are in a committed relationship you should respect your partner and their wishes, and is it really TOO MUCH or UNREALISTIC to ask that your boyfriend avoid doing such? I mean, I know he wouldn’t be comfortable with me “hanging out” with other men, so why should I be okay with him following other women on social media?
Part of me sees it as guys being immature and those guys in general do not respect women as people and simply view these women as objects. (But maybe it’s not that deep, idk)
It’s a habit that guys form that can turn into an addiction.
Social media and the internet have ruined relationships today for the most part. You don’t see people getting married and staying together for decades any longer. It’s unfortunate I think.
* We accept things that should not be simply because something exists. *
Thing about me is, I don’t believe men and women can genuinely be platonic friends. I think it’s very, very rare to meet a man who isn’t waiting for the opportunity to overstep that platonic boundary.
Maybe I’m just insecure… while I recognize the woman I am, I can’t help but feel that these actions are threatening to where I stand (terrible, I know). But my excuse is that this is still fresh and still unwraveling, and perhaps we can some to some sort of understanding… even after the 5th conversation regarding this same topic.
I just need some reassurance, really. I wish I didn’t lack the confidence to trust in myself even though I kind of already know what answers to expect.
I’ve heard tons of excuses why guys do it. But I believe if you are in a committed relationship you should respect your partner and their wishes, and is it really TOO MUCH or UNREALISTIC to ask that your boyfriend avoid doing such? I mean, I know he wouldn’t be comfortable with me “hanging out” with other men, so why should I be okay with him following other women on social media?
Part of me sees it as guys being immature and those guys in general do not respect women as people and simply view these women as objects. (But maybe it’s not that deep, idk)
It’s a habit that guys form that can turn into an addiction.
Social media and the internet have ruined relationships today for the most part. You don’t see people getting married and staying together for decades any longer. It’s unfortunate I think.
* We accept things that should not be simply because something exists. *
