When being casual apparently isnt being casual
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BeefySenpie · M
[quote]emotionally invested but casual[/quote]
These two things seem mutually exclusive
These two things seem mutually exclusive
DblRaven · 22-25
@BeefySenpie I can see your opinion and appreciate the post reply. For me it means yes we have been dating, I travel and am gone usually several weeks or longer at a time. We like each other, care about feelings and each others lives and experiences but have respected that I travel and she lives a busy life so no one gets upset when there isnt a daily text or call. It might be two or three days in some cases but doesnt mean we havent cared. Its not vacant of feeling
revenant · F
@BeefySenpie that is what I thought also !
froggtongue · M
An ultimatum like that so quickly? Was there no hints she dropped? Or better yet, a discussion as to her desire to move forward out of the casualness of the relationship so you both may pursue a full fledged one?
DblRaven · 22-25
@froggtongue She stayed over for three nights, we had a great time. I was home and flew out again last day. After we had a walk and coffee she said we need to talk. I want you here more and if you cant be Im not sure what that will mean for us.
froggtongue · M
@DblRaven i guess it's something she has to do. I hope you two come to good terms and figure out all of it as it pertains to your immediate situation.
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
I think being casual might mean different things to different people. I think a lot of people consider casual to mean non-committal or insincere. But seeing your response to other posts, it looks more like emotionally invested but needing to respect each other's space and time. I think your expected arrangement did not used to be that abnormal. People tend to use this technology we have for constant connection and begin to expect immediate response and communication. We've gone from spending time with people we are dating as being a couple times per week to a couple times per hour. Neither career driven people or more introverted people can keep up with that demand.
It really sucks that you established that expectation but your partner has decided to change their own expectations so suddenly.
It really sucks that you established that expectation but your partner has decided to change their own expectations so suddenly.
revenant · F
I might be wrong but I am getting the impression that you want more out of that relationship than what your partner does.
MyLegGuy2020 · M
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swirlie · 31-35, F
A non-distant relationship where a couple sees each other every night, will end up in exactly the same place that your's is in right now if one of them suddenly gets a job on the other side of the country and commutes back home once every two weeks. That situation is known as a 'degenerating common-law relationship'. To actually start out in the same scenario that a degenerating common-law relationship ends up in, is called delusions of grandeur.
I was just reading yesterday that the IRS does not consider a couple (married or otherwise) as technically 'living together' anymore if one of them is away from home for any 90 consecutive day period within a 12 month tax year and are therefore taxed as two separate people living in separate residences.
I was just reading yesterday that the IRS does not consider a couple (married or otherwise) as technically 'living together' anymore if one of them is away from home for any 90 consecutive day period within a 12 month tax year and are therefore taxed as two separate people living in separate residences.
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