When being casual apparently isnt being casual

A small rant into the universe. I think it's a bit unfair when you have a dating relationship with someone. You both agree on what that is and understand that because of work, distance is involved so agree to keep it emotionally invested but casual and then after things have gone well for almost 8 months are almost given an ultimatum. As in one should start to look for new work and to be local more often or the relationship may not work. I'm frustrated and upset.

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froggtongue · M

An ultimatum like that so quickly? Was there no hints she dropped? Or better yet, a discussion as to her desire to move forward out of the casualness of the relationship so you both may pursue a full fledged one?

DblRaven · 22-25

@froggtongue She stayed over for three nights, we had a great time. I was home and flew out again last day. After we had a walk and coffee she said we need to talk. I want you here more and if you cant be Im not sure what that will mean for us.

froggtongue · M

@DblRaven i guess it's something she has to do. I hope you two come to good terms and figure out all of it as it pertains to your immediate situation.