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Do you blame yourself for all your past failed relationships?

For me, there’s a little voice at the back of my head that makes me want to feel guilty about it not working out with all of my exes. After all, how can I be right and ALL of them be wrong? I must have some flaws which probably fucked things up. I’m trying to work on them, but it makes me wonder if I’ll ever find a girl I can get along with to keep around for a while. And yet, at the same time, I feel like I want and don’t want something like that too. Life is complicated, but time heals all wounds
Definitely, I think taking ownership and being self aware is important when moving forward to self growth and a healthy relationship with yourself as well as others. I don’t blame myself for ALL of my relationships not working but I do recognize that it wasn’t solely them as to why the relationship failed. In every relationship I’ve been in I’m able to recognize my faults and what I could have done better or what I was doing wrong, but I’m also able to recognize those things in the other people as well. But to just blame yourself solely or the other person solely I don’t think is the right mindset to have when working on improvement and towards healthier relationships.
LunaRavenWolf · 26-30, F
It doesn't necessarily have to be anyone's fault it's all down to compatibility and expections.
smiler2012 · 56-60, M
{@momad7] do not chastise yourself so it may of not been all your fault so why carry the burden of blame over it . one good thing does come from this it is a learning curve and any mistakes you have made you think you made well you know for the future
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
You are still young and you have time to find a nice girl. Give yourself time but dont abuse time if you are looking to create a family someday.
Yes.

Most of mine didn't start because I never had the courage to take the next step.
scott18 · 22-25, M
For the most part. Maybe will be better in my next life.
Eternity · 22-25, M
No. Only the ones that were my fault....like one. Yeah. Really just one.
Notladylike · 36-40, F
No. I blame them mostly.
BohemianBoo · 18-21, M
caccoon · 36-40
Yes and no.

I took part in some of the failings, of course. Every relationship, even a good and healthy one, will have bad moments and mistakes.

Every relationship is a learning experience. Don't blame yourself... Just learn 💙

 
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