Do you blame yourself for all your past failed relationships?

For me, there’s a little voice at the back of my head that makes me want to feel guilty about it not working out with all of my exes. After all, how can I be right and ALL of them be wrong? I must have some flaws which probably fucked things up. I’m trying to work on them, but it makes me wonder if I’ll ever find a girl I can get along with to keep around for a while. And yet, at the same time, I feel like I want and don’t want something like that too. Life is complicated, but time heals all wounds

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Stark

Definitely, I think taking ownership and being self aware is important when moving forward to self growth and a healthy relationship with yourself as well as others. I don’t blame myself for ALL of my relationships not working but I do recognize that it wasn’t solely them as to why the relationship failed. In every relationship I’ve been in I’m able to recognize my faults and what I could have done better or what I was doing wrong, but I’m also able to recognize those things in the other people as well. But to just blame yourself solely or the other person solely I don’t think is the right mindset to have when working on improvement and towards healthier relationships.