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Leila · 18-21, F
Am I not seeing him as a red flag and they are?
hartfire · 61-69
Young people tend not to be good drivers, which is why they have much higher insurance premiums and are better off with 2nd hand cars. An added advantage is if they learn a bit of basic mechanics whenever the car breaks down.
It's not a good idea for others to lend their own car while your boyfriend's car is getting repaired. During that time he should walk, ride a bicycle or catch public transport. This will teach him to become less impulsive and more mindful when driving.
It would be useful to check whether he drinks, smokes weed or does other drugs when driving; if that's a problem he might need help at Alateen, AA or NA.
If drugs are not the issue, perhaps he has undiagnosed ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). If diagnosed, his inattentiveness, poor working memory, impulsiveness and thrill seeking can all be damped down (to nearly normal) with Ritalin.
It is impolite and disrespectful for your boyfriend to refer to anyone else's choice of car as "stupid." Maybe your boyfriend has a chip on his shoulder about your family's affluence.
t's also very poor English; cars don't have brains with which to be stupid or otherwise.
He could could say he thinks a particular type of vehicle is "impractical" for a particular purpose; that's just expressing an opinion, not criticising a person - and he's entitled to his views.
Your younger sister probably loves your Dad and feels uncomfortable when she hears his choices being criticised by your boyfriend. She could say this directly to him of she wishes.
Your boyfriend is definitely not a stranger. A stranger is someone whom we've never met.
Your younger and older sisters have no right to decide which friends you may invite home. They do have a right to express their opinions and preferences, but they cannot actually decide or control what happens. They would not like it if you tried to ban their friends.
Your parents could decide to ban your boyfriend because they own the house and are responsible for your welfare. However, I doubt they would do so just because he doesn't like their choice of car.
Probably the best solution would be for your boyfriend to apologise for being impolite with your family, and say he'll do his best to be more diplomatic in future. But, if he has ADHD or drug problems he will probably be incapable of keeping that promise.
Try to work out what's really going on. Having that many dings is definitely not normal.
Being a "good driver" is not just about paying attention and skill; it's also respecting the the road laws and signs every time and all the time. They are devised, based on evidence, for the purpose of minimising the risks of accidents.
It's not a good idea for others to lend their own car while your boyfriend's car is getting repaired. During that time he should walk, ride a bicycle or catch public transport. This will teach him to become less impulsive and more mindful when driving.
It would be useful to check whether he drinks, smokes weed or does other drugs when driving; if that's a problem he might need help at Alateen, AA or NA.
If drugs are not the issue, perhaps he has undiagnosed ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). If diagnosed, his inattentiveness, poor working memory, impulsiveness and thrill seeking can all be damped down (to nearly normal) with Ritalin.
It is impolite and disrespectful for your boyfriend to refer to anyone else's choice of car as "stupid." Maybe your boyfriend has a chip on his shoulder about your family's affluence.
t's also very poor English; cars don't have brains with which to be stupid or otherwise.
He could could say he thinks a particular type of vehicle is "impractical" for a particular purpose; that's just expressing an opinion, not criticising a person - and he's entitled to his views.
Your younger sister probably loves your Dad and feels uncomfortable when she hears his choices being criticised by your boyfriend. She could say this directly to him of she wishes.
Your boyfriend is definitely not a stranger. A stranger is someone whom we've never met.
Your younger and older sisters have no right to decide which friends you may invite home. They do have a right to express their opinions and preferences, but they cannot actually decide or control what happens. They would not like it if you tried to ban their friends.
Your parents could decide to ban your boyfriend because they own the house and are responsible for your welfare. However, I doubt they would do so just because he doesn't like their choice of car.
Probably the best solution would be for your boyfriend to apologise for being impolite with your family, and say he'll do his best to be more diplomatic in future. But, if he has ADHD or drug problems he will probably be incapable of keeping that promise.
Try to work out what's really going on. Having that many dings is definitely not normal.
Being a "good driver" is not just about paying attention and skill; it's also respecting the the road laws and signs every time and all the time. They are devised, based on evidence, for the purpose of minimising the risks of accidents.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
You're all are taking it to seriously. Let it pass.
Everyone I know started out with "beater" cars.
It is simply a fact of life.
It seems to me that his comment was "off the cuff" and to me it seems as though no harm was intended. = your sisters are way too dramatic. (Jelly perhaps??)
It is simply a fact of life.
It seems to me that his comment was "off the cuff" and to me it seems as though no harm was intended. = your sisters are way too dramatic. (Jelly perhaps??)
JPWhoo · 36-40, M
Idk, fwiw, it seems kinda strange to me that your sisters got all sensitive about that when they call him “kleptomaniac” all the time.
ViciDraco · 41-45, M
It did sort of seem he was making fun of you all and your family situation. I can see how the sisters might get upset but I'm not sure if it's ban from the home levels of problem. So I think your sisters might be right in being offended but maybe overreacting in what the price of the offense should be.