Any tips how to not panic on date?

I have given up several possible good guys or dates due to fear. I feel like an imposter..they may see my outer shell of being light or laid back, but they dont know the extent anxiety has had in my life. I feel I'll be letting them down when they find out. How can I feel good on a date when I am not offering a whole person? Any tips on how not to panic on a date, thinking Im not enough? I fear Ill get so nervous I will have to leave🥺

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biandlargeny · 56-60, M

Ok here's the deal if he's asked you out you already have the upper hand. You are in control. Sit back and breathe. Prepare a couple open ended questions that pique your interest. Nothing romance or relationship oriented but rather hobbies or vacation spots. Books or movies what do you in prefer. These conversations can lead to stories and experiences. From there the conversation should flow easier.

Ask the questions but don't dominate the conversation let him ask about you as well..
Breathe and have fun. V

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@biandlargeny But thats where panic comes in..he only knows a bit of me on a first hang out, not the anxiety ridden woman , who, to SOME guys, may view me as a burden. And I know Im not offering a woman who can do lots of things..so Im not a whoke person in a way.

biandlargeny · 56-60, M

@Coralmist you can slowly let that side come out over time. If you think there's a connection. Keep it light at first, fun conversation. Don't worry about revealing too much. Let this develop.