How to connect with others without disconnecting from myself

I need to learn how to maintain the gains I've made independently while interacting with others. It's like I lose myself when I interact with others. I make small concessions that build up over time. So innocous, yet it seems to throw off everything I was working toward.

I don't want to be single forever, but it looks like I'm always better off that way.

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Ontheroad · M

I'm certainly no expert, but could it be you are seeking what isn't there? Like maybe you want to feel the same feelings/connection you are offering?

wtfgirl001 · 31-35, F

@Ontheroad That's exactly what it is. I need to become more in tune with what they are actually providing me, and not delude myself into thinking that if I give something it will be returned.

Ontheroad · M

@wtfgirl001 It's hard, especially if you give of yourself so freely, to not be... let's call it blind, to what you are getting in return. Relationship are never, or rarely are they equal in the give and receive, but one must be in tune with what they need and accept nothing less. Doing so never ends well...

wtfgirl001 · 31-35, F

@Ontheroad Thank you for that.

Eklipse · F

People can connect themselves if they like. I'm not in a position to tag around others. Not even interested. Things sometimes change.

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