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Would you date a person you work with?

There is a guy at my work that really captured my attention, we were having this eye contact and he keep coming near to my office, I feel like he wants to talk to me but how and how? This is the issue.
I think we both work in two different departments and that makes things complicated.
But I’m still hesitating… we are we heading with this ?
“ Don’t s**t where you eat” right?
But in my company we have a lot of couples that are working and dating together I don’t know why it’s not possible for me? Or I’m just complicating things…

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Human1000 · M

The elevator ride after you break-up should be fun.

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Human1000 · M

@mellie So you would never run into them? Maybe…

mellie · 26-30, F

@Human1000 I don’t know, I just think that they are good chances to make it work..

Human1000 · M

@mellie I say go for it.

NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

Go for it if you want, being in different departments will help lesson the complications of it all.

mellie · 26-30, F

@NewBeginnings7790 ♥️

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

If I felt it's the right person for me, sure, why not? I would say it's easier to find a job than a good partner. Why would I sacrifice a potentially great relationship because of work?

mellie · 26-30, F

@CrazyMusicLover ♥️

SW-User

I would not date someone I work with. When things go south in the relationship, it can cause too much trouble at work.

LadyGrace ·

Not the best idea. At all. 😂

helenS · 36-40, F

If you like each other, and he's not your boss, what's the problem?

mellie · 26-30, F

@helenS ♥️

Montanaman · M

I say go for it!❤️

Casheyane · F

We tend to overthink. Give it a try. Maybe he'll end up surprising you. If you like him, and he likes you, and you're both single, then why not? Weigh the pros and cons.
I hope you don't regret. But also, guard your heart.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

I wouldn’t have minded to, go for it

You don’t have to have a cool approach for a guy, if he’s single and finds you attractive simply asking if he would like to exchange numbers is all it takes

wonkywinky · 51-55, M

In my time i "slept" with 2 colleagues,that worked in the same department,its awkward but fun too,like you have the ultimate inside joke.

jackson55 · M

Why not ? A young woman I met at work has been living with me for the past 10 years. No, I wasn’t her boss.

mellie · 26-30, F

@jackson55 ♥️

fun4us2b · M

I know many that did and ended up married...being in different departments is good...

mellie · 26-30, F

@fun4us2b ♥️

Justsimple

Just do it....if it doesnt work then you in different departments like you say

mellie · 26-30, F

@Justsimple thanks.

nacnud · 31-35, M

Maybe start as friends first. You will find out quickly if there are common interests to build a relationship on. Not being in the same team does help as we all need our own space. I would recommend not being too open in the team as it allows a relationship to grow without outside influence. It also means if things don't work it is easier to deal with. I know people who met in a work environment and are have been married a long time so it can work. Either way best of luck.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I dated two people from work, sort of at the same time. It didn’t end well.

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

My company has a policy in which dating or flirting with co-workers is prohibited. Dating co-workers can lead to office gossip and rumors. Companies don't want work production to be interrupted by these sort of things.

nevergiveup · M

I did but she was married we had a sexual relationship and i fell for her. She just wanted me for company and sex. If she had been honest at the start i would not have done anything

Souls

You don't date co-workers there are rules to dating! If you do date a co-worker be prepared to hear your business circle around the office when the relationship turns sour.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

It probably go fine as long as if things start to go south you make sure to end things extra respectfully and friendly rather than letting it escalate and end on a ‘big fight’

SW-User

Cant say for others, personally i would not date anyone in my work circle. Makes being a manager easier when dealing with subordinates.

IamBack · 31-35, M

Very tricky, I fell in that trap lately and got rejected so good luck 👍🏻

mellie · 26-30, F

@IamBack so what happened with both of you?

IamBack · 31-35, M

@mellie we’re on good terms, neither friends nor enemies, just a bit of awkwardness when she’s around especially if we’re the only people in the office or during 1-on-1 conversations

At the beginning it was UNbearable

tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F

Yes.As you work in two different departments it should work just fine.I am dating the CEO where I work and I dated his predecessor.

PepsiColaP

Highly unlikely

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Justsimple

@PepsiColaP but what if he is really nice and treats you well and make u feel all good and you grow feelings for him

PepsiColaP

@Justsimple nothing

Justsimple

@PepsiColaP damn

Torsten · 36-40, M

have several times before and it never ended well

mellie · 26-30, F

@Torsten why was it a dead end?

Torsten · 36-40, M

@mellie the relationships were. The first girl I dated at a job, people really liked her and well me and her had run its course but I stayed with her because I felt it would negatively impact my job and I was correct. When we split up, people took her side and work was not such a great place to be around. I stayed but she left and that seemed to just annoy my coworkers more.
The second time I dated someone from work was when I was a assistant Chef and was soon to be head chef. The head chef at the time treated her like shit and one day when she was cleaning under a oven, he literally walked on her and started calling her all sorts of things basically blaming her and trying to get her fired. I retaliated and we both lost our jobs.
Relationships at work from my experience dont work

AwakeningConfession221122

Been there done that. 5 years later I left with only a bees 🐝 dick amount of sanity.

SW-User

No it would be awkward if it ended

mellie · 26-30, F

@SW-User I might travel to some other city next year…

SW-User

@mellie yikes

mellie · 26-30, F

@SW-User yup.. but it’s not sure.. it depends on a lot of things.

TheSirfurryanimalWales · 61-69, M

I did....and we had to work together when we called it off.

iamelijah · 26-30, M

It would be awkward if you breaking up with him.

Sharky86 · 36-40, M

Only for sex and/or pay raise.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

Yes you can. It's alright

vetguy1991 · 51-55, M

Not a good idea

Justenjoyit · 56-60, M

Live and learn lol

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Nope I wouldn’t

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Justsimple Where I work I would constantly see someone so I wouldn’t go there

Justsimple

@iamonfire696 understandable

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Justsimple

@SW-User and maybe they were charmers

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mellie · 26-30, F

@swirlie I wouldn’t resign. But I could change my office so I would avoid having contact with him. And there is a million way to not see him if something should have gone wrong. The only thing that I am worry about is my reputation: I don’t want people to talk about it in front of me because believe me , I share Hrs talking about a couple in my company and it was their afternoon cup of tea gossip.

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