Does your ex still pop up in your head sometimes? I believe I have completely moved on from...

SW-User

More in my nightmares.

saragoodtimes · F

no but I check the obits every day

LadyJ · F

Yes certain songs,tv shows and places remind me of him

cycleman · 61-69, M

They contributed hugely in shaping who you are. There is no backing out of that, and if you try then you are denying yourself from knowing more and even the betterment of yourself.
By being irritated by her postings in your group, that just shows you have not matured.
Get being proud and happy she was a good step in your life but don't worry, you have a lot more steps that'll provide you with a lot more happiness throughout life.

nedkelly · 61-69, M

Honestly no, my wife even though out old photos of her, been with wife since May 1979

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

I have to deal with mine because of parenting of our 4 y/o daughter. My other ex (mum to my adult kids) usually contacts me if stuff crops up about them, but otherwise she's married now so of nil interest to me. I'd love to have a wonderful romantic partner but I'm happy to stay single rather than settle for someone that's not suitable.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Yes, but the trauma bond I had formed was really strong and has been tough to work through. For a long time every day was a deliberate choice not to go back and engage with the toxicity. Now it's more of an effortless choice but reminders of him are all around still.

SW-User

Well, an ex at some point was a very important part of my life and even though they're not there it is natural to remember them from time to time. Especially when something reminds me of them. It all feels normal and natural to me.

sspec

You can't forget someone you lived your marital life with, even if for few days.

Lessons stay, so does the pricks. Live with them, thank them eternally, coz they helped you be stronger.