My parents. They divorced in 1980 when I was 12. I lost faith/contact with both over the years that followed, and had zero contact with dad for 15 yrs until he died (in another country) about 10 yrs ago. Mum died at the end of 2020 and I'd had a very bad relationship with her too as neither she nor dad ever talked to me about their divorce. I've never been interested in friends since the divorce, and I'm no good at making relationships or understanding the inter-connections between friendships, relationships, sex, intimacy, etc. I hate marriage and will never ever go down that road.
@MySpiritEvolves In the last few years of mum's life I had semi-regular contact with her, but missing out on 15 years of contact with dad hurts. I know a large part of it was my fear of dealing with the outcomes of having a really non-positive home life as a kid, as any one of us (mum, dad, me, my sister) could have made moves to correct the great abyss. But none of us did. I can only take responsibility for my part since I have no control or influence over the others. My sister btw is 4 y younger and in March this yr I had to challenge her in court over mum's estate because I wasn't going to get any of it. Now I'm getting like 1/6th (enough for a mediocre house deposit which will be more money than I've ever had at one time previously).
@zonavar68 Sometimes we only have enough fuel to focus on ourselves, I understand why you did that. I don't talk to my family much. We are about as connected as a group of feral cats lol
@MySpiritEvolves I'm completely 'divorced' from all of mum's extended family (her sister and brother both passed away recently too) as those two families are die-hard fundy christian and I'm totally anti-religious. Go figure. Mum wasn't very religious and dad wasn't at all.
@zonavar68 That's how my moms family is. I try to be a part of them though because surprisingly they were the most solid family members I had growing up. I miss them a lot I moved away 7 years ago.
