It's better you found out now rather than finding out when you're married. Save yourself or you'll regret all your life. I'm sorry, but if you see all that now you have to leave the relationship.

What it comes down to is simple....will being with this man, in marriage, be satisfying and happy? From what it sounds like, he's not the man you want as a husband and partner to walk hand in hand through life. Don't ever settle, don't ever compromise the important things. Some compromise is alright and can be expected as you will still learn things about each other as you grow together. But, if he is doing or not doing things that make you strongly question, then he's not the right one and from all you've shared so far, I'd say it's a good thing you found out now and can end it and find someone that WILL give you what you want, if you want. I'm sorry he isn't making you happy, but better to find out now than once married.

I truly wish you the best on this.

Dude, get out while you can

it is a big deal and you have every right to feel hurt by this. Im sorry

There’s just so many red flags there
What does he do that does make you happy recently?
And does it really outweigh all that?

Seems clear that he's only with you because he doesn't want to be alone but he doesn't want to sacrifice any of his life for you. I mean I'm all for being your own people even in a relationship but to the extent you gotta buy your own groceries too?
Like what you gotta label stuff like you're college roommates?

Idk.. I don't mean to sound negative but that whole relationship would be a no for me

This is really sad. If you accept it all as is and get married, you are in for a sad time with this guy.
I'd be really hurt if a guy asked me to sign a pre-nuptial agreement.
It really sounds like the guy isn't into marriage... not even "together".

Do not "settle". It will only bring you down.

Well your first mistake was moving in together before marriage. I have no idea why but when couples do that they often break up shortly after they get married. The fact that you are finding fault sufficiently grievous to complain about them on SW is a further indicator that this relationship is not stable. You can try fix it or you can bail on it but as it is it will not last.

If it bothers you than it should bother him. Nothing you said sounded unreasonable. Just tell him don't worry you found a guy friend to go with you for mother's day.

It is a very big deal. This side of him will get worse if you two get married. Now is the best time to call it quits

Well if you marry him anyway there is no one to blame but yourself

If he wants to act single... Let him be single...

i'm not reading all that.

Red flags

It would be a big deal to me if my partner were that inconsiderate of me. It's not too late to break things off if that's what you want to do, or if you're just not sure you're ready to commit to being married to him.

Leave him

Leave.

You won’t change him, it will just get worse. It’s far better that you found out about who he really is before you got married and had kids.

While breaking it off will still be tough, just imagine if you were married with children. Don’t waste anymore time with him. I have been married 16 years and it won’t get better. You CANNOT change those fundamental things in him.

This is what engagement is for, finding out if you will truly be compatible.

Get out while you can.

Sounds like You have some hard thinking and decision making to do.

Get away from him, you can find someone better. You don't wanna be locked into this now if you're already unhappy. It will only get worse

It doesn’t get better over time. Been married 25 years, so please take my advice to heart.

Geez, not a lot of good things. You have some serious thinking to do, if I may be so forward.

Won't work you have already gone separate ways you will always regret he's not family orientated once u have your own familey