Can You Forgive Someone Without Ever Talking To Them Again?
Can you forgive on your own instead of with that person? How do you forgive?
22-25, M
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SatanBurger · 36-40, F
Yeah. I just know that I have no choice, it's either forgive and heal for myself or stay stuck in a feedback loop in which I'll only be hurting myself, not the person who did wrong to me. When I look at things from the stand point of "I have no choice," it becomes easier.
I should clarify that my view isn't an open invitation to friendship even if I was to forgive so I'm not saying that exactly, I wouldn't ever even talk to them but I more forgive people because I do know that ignorance and social conditioning exists. I can't count how many times I've seen people with bad views whose parents are the exact mirror image (sometimes not but I've seen this more often than not.) On the flip side, I equally know that on some level, we are aware of what we do to others so at least on a subconscious level, it is on purpose.
On an irrelevant subject but a relevant example of the above, science shows that narcissists KNOW they hurt you, even when they try to convince you that "they just can't help it."
So while I can have empathy for the person who, when hurting others, also in turn has likely hurt themselves in more ways than one because that's what those types often do, I don't have empathy for the things they do on purpose because they feel a certain way or have skewed logic. Therefore I can forgive because I know the things that shape our brains but I can't forget because I know that people partially do it on purpose so I can forgive without them being around in that sense. But I won't ever be a "friend" or anyone who would p!ss on them if they were on fire.
I should clarify that my view isn't an open invitation to friendship even if I was to forgive so I'm not saying that exactly, I wouldn't ever even talk to them but I more forgive people because I do know that ignorance and social conditioning exists. I can't count how many times I've seen people with bad views whose parents are the exact mirror image (sometimes not but I've seen this more often than not.) On the flip side, I equally know that on some level, we are aware of what we do to others so at least on a subconscious level, it is on purpose.
On an irrelevant subject but a relevant example of the above, science shows that narcissists KNOW they hurt you, even when they try to convince you that "they just can't help it."
So while I can have empathy for the person who, when hurting others, also in turn has likely hurt themselves in more ways than one because that's what those types often do, I don't have empathy for the things they do on purpose because they feel a certain way or have skewed logic. Therefore I can forgive because I know the things that shape our brains but I can't forget because I know that people partially do it on purpose so I can forgive without them being around in that sense. But I won't ever be a "friend" or anyone who would p!ss on them if they were on fire.