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Letting someone know …

Why do we resist telling people that we like / love them ?

Is it because they might be scared ..?
Shocked and unaccepting ?
Afraid of not receiving a positive response ?
Maybe they don’t know you well ?

Is it because you are not sure how they take it and you might be publicly humiliated ?
RebelFox · 36-40, F
I keep some feelings to myself because I would rather, if they are reciprocated, them bloom when ready. But I also wait too long and lose people I think. I dont read signals very well because I've been lied to often. I need someone to tell me how they feel. I need patience.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
It’s easy to intensify , but more is required to hold it together , perhaps a bigger common goal shedding the egos @RebelFox
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@scorpiolovedeep mmmmm yes lets take off these egos
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
Ego , attitude , ignorance and anger and lack of common thinking / activities destroys relationships @RebelFox
Steve42 · 56-60, M
I tell my kids I love them every time I get the chance.

Romantically I've been screwed over so many times, I don't think it's possible. Even if they said it, it will only be to manipulate me. So yeah, no.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
You mean women say ‘ I love you’ to you without having the true intention ?


Sorry to hear that ..

@Steve42
Steve42 · 56-60, M
@scorpiolovedeep Actions are way louder than words.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
True that 👍 … I do agree @Steve42
SW-User
It only counts if they mean it if they don't back it up with action it's empty and they are saying it just to say it
revenant · F
fear of rejection or not feeling worthy enough
@revenant This
Typically, I don't see what others might find attractive in me - so it's better that I say nothing than risk rejection and the pain that goes with it.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
Correct .. breaking down the walls is important .. and the conversations that go with it including the sensitivity and the delicate nature of the feelings & thoughts involved.

One must not , however make them feel unimportant and weak by breaking the walls though, not take advantage emotionally.

Sorry to hear …
Thoughts are with you …

Respecting pulse, feelings and differences are key ..

@HootyTheNightOwl
@scorpiolovedeep It was funny when I learned just how enabling I found the words "I love you"... I started saying it whenever I was struggling - and I guess that I overused it because I was eventually banned from saying it again.

That's not the first time I was banned from saying something, either... I've also been banned from saying "Sorry" by other people, too.

My walls had to be broken down... there was no other way - and I was glad that he was able to do it because I am now able to be my true self with him as opposed to the shell that most people see. I don't mind laying myself open and vulnerable before him now because I know that he doesn't want to hurt me as so many other people did.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
It’s important that you have discovered yourself , your patience , persistence, heart strings , inner soul cry and inner resilience… it’s very important to know what you can do and can’t do - understand what others can do to you and can’t do too…

Celebrate your wins …

Not all people come into your life and provide positive experience, hold onto to those who uplift you and like you.

But in order to get something we also must give / reciprocate in similar capacity…

Bless you 👍

@HootyTheNightOwl
HotMessExpress102 · 41-45, F
I think I can be overbearing with my emotions. I will and can be extra sappy, which can make people think I’m full of it.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
I think it’s ok to vent , but that doesn’t define the real you , right ? 😊
@HotMessExpress102
HotMessExpress102 · 41-45, F
@scorpiolovedeep Let those storms pile up the wreckage and rubble and I can do the dirty work to clean it up. When it’s all over... I will grace the rainbows and sunshine with my callused hands and gratitude.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
Bless you kind hearted 😊@HotMessExpress102
I say it pretty easily if it's true. I figured out there's no danger to me.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
It’s like saying “Here’s my heart, destroy me”.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Rejection can be really hard.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
True … but we cannot linger on that disappointment though …our heart is capable of self healing … might take longer time from each blow … and even more capable of loving more 😊@iamonfire696
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@scorpiolovedeep I am tired of being hurt though.
scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗@iamonfire696

 
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