Letting someone know …

Correct but don’t you think conversations are required to clarify their real intentions or would you stop at that point ?@HootyTheNightOwl

@scorpiolovedeep I don't go there... unless they make the first move - and sometimes force me to have conversations that I don't want to have, then I won't go there.

My man was only able to establish how I felt about him because he sat me down and made me have a conversation with him that I wasn't comfortable with in the moment - but was glad that he was able to break down my walls afterwards.

A lot of the time, I won't lay myself open and vulnerable of my own free will because my life taught me that it was dangerous for me to do so - so I bottle up my feelings and dissociate before facing my feelings.

Even now, I can't imagine my life without my man and it would break me again if he wanted to leave me... but I won't beg him to stay if his mind is made up.

I would wish him all the best and suffer the hell of my feelings - and just writing about this has a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes.

Correct .. breaking down the walls is important .. and the conversations that go with it including the sensitivity and the delicate nature of the feelings & thoughts involved.

One must not , however make them feel unimportant and weak by breaking the walls though, not take advantage emotionally.

Sorry to hear …
Thoughts are with you …

Respecting pulse, feelings and differences are key ..

@HootyTheNightOwl

@scorpiolovedeep It was funny when I learned just how enabling I found the words "I love you"... I started saying it whenever I was struggling - and I guess that I overused it because I was eventually banned from saying it again.

That's not the first time I was banned from saying something, either... I've also been banned from saying "Sorry" by other people, too.

My walls had to be broken down... there was no other way - and I was glad that he was able to do it because I am now able to be my true self with him as opposed to the shell that most people see. I don't mind laying myself open and vulnerable before him now because I know that he doesn't want to hurt me as so many other people did.

It’s important that you have discovered yourself , your patience , persistence, heart strings , inner soul cry and inner resilience… it’s very important to know what you can do and can’t do - understand what others can do to you and can’t do too…

Celebrate your wins …

Not all people come into your life and provide positive experience, hold onto to those who uplift you and like you.

But in order to get something we also must give / reciprocate in similar capacity…

Bless you 👍

@HootyTheNightOwl