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Fighting attraction to someone.

Have you ever liked someone but also didn’t at the same time? It’s confusing the hell out of me, I have this friend and he’s always been just that, a friend. But recently I got out of a relationship (3-4 months ago) and now I’m starting to notice the more I hangout with this friend I’m attracted to him. But I’m also trying to fight the attraction because at the same time I’m not attracted to him, lol it’s so confusing. It’s almost like the shallowness in me says I could do better; but my heart cares for him. I’ve never been more confused in my lite; because I think if I truly loved him I wouldn’t be this confused or even think how I do? So is it not love? I guess what I’m trying to say is I constantly panic, I always thought I knew I’d know and everytime I get close to love I swear I never know. I hate being confused!
Based on your feelings at the moment, it seems to be not quite love yet....but possibly developing into love. You'd be surprised how love can come unexpectedly and through situations you never would have suspected.

I would suggest you give it time.More importantly, try to see if the feeling is mutual, you may get hurt if he does not reciprocate the feeling. For all you know, it's because you're feeling vulnerable right now after your break up and your heart is needing love that you focus on him...when it all may just be real love for a friend.Good luck !😊
ScrewYou · 22-25, F
[@1186998,LILMissAnonyMOUSE] thank you so much beautiful 😭❤️
[@1054981,ScrewYou] Awwwwww...you're welcome!( Hugging you🤗 ) It's gonna be okay, you'll see ☺️
Eidolon · M
Honestly? I think that if you remotely have an attraction to him, you should explore it.
Because he is a friend, you would always be so comfortable with your friendship with him, that you would hesitate to explore more with him. Ultimately you'd eventually just be suffocating yourself, and years later live with regrets of not knowing what could have been.
It's rather you just be transparent with him, even if it means telling him about the confusion. This way the truth is out there and the ball will be in his court to consider whether the feelings are mutual, or whether he is just going to brush it off as you being a goofball friend.... but at least you would not have to live with the indecision.
ScrewYou · 22-25, F
[@1062930,Eidolon] I have let him know, he’s aware I’m hella confused right now and he seems pretty confident in himself because he’s just chilled and doesn’t make me feel rushed about needing to know the answer to anything right now. It’s just all in my head and everytime I hangout with him now I’m kinda suffering because I just don’t wanna hurt him and I kinda see and know it’s coming…
Eidolon · M
[@1054981,ScrewYou] a million heartbreaks are still worth just 1 moment of true sincere love. Never hold back regardless of the destination being doomed. Most often the journey is immortalised more than the destination. Just continue being completely honest with him, and above all - with yourself.
Rokasu · 31-35, M
So you're rebounding, nice.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
I think that you are just lonely or whatever, possibly horny.

He's nice, yall get along but to me it dosent sound like you really like him enough.
Just cool it chica
Will ruin the friendship for a small rebound fling.
Iamonfire666 · 31-35, F
So you are attracted to him but not enough because you think you could do better looks wise? Looks fade, how a person treats you is important.
ScrewYou · 22-25, F
[@10165,Iamonfire666] yes you’re very spot on; and that is very true.
Iamonfire666 · 31-35, F
[@1054981,ScrewYou] just remember that when you are figuring it out.
Kumbayakid · 61-69, M
The fact that you title the post “fighting attraction” says a lot. If you’re fighting it, there’s something wrong.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
You don't want to be but you are attracted... Your choice... Stay away and often wonder"what if" or ride the train and see where it goes
How does he feel, you're fighting an attraction that you may or may not have.. Is he interested in you
ScrewYou · 22-25, F
[@1224465,AthenaArena] he is.
Snowgirl27 · F
Kiss him. See if you have chemistry. Then you'll know .
ScrewYou · 22-25, F
[@1229611,Snowgirl27] he kissed me once and I pulled away and told him I only saw him as a friend; wasn’t until after that statement I started to see him differently.
Snowgirl27 · F
[@1054981,ScrewYou] I think you do like him .
ScrewYou · 22-25, F
[@412438,ExtremeNext] lmfaooo pretty much this meme explains how my brain feels. Idk what’s going on in my head anymore! I’m a mess.

 
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