People who have cheated at some point in their lives
Do you think once a cheater, they will always cheat?
26-30, F
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exexec · 61-69, C
Not always. I know of several instances when cheaters reformed. Sometimes it was because they finally found the right person and lost the desire to cheat. Sometimes it was an actual spiritual awakening. Sometimes they just "grew up" and took responsibility for their actions.
Kodel · 26-30, M
I think that cheating is something people spend their entire lives trying to live down. Personally, I would never date someone who had cheated because that shows infidelity and that is something I hold very dear to my heart. I would want to feel free to trust my partner with everything and not be always worried that they were going to leave me because of "insert reason here."
Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F
@Kodel speaking from my own experience, I have cheated before. Though it was in a relationship with no feelings, now I feel I'll forever be judged by it in my relationship with actual feelings. I know for a fact I would not do it to this person I love but there is this neverending stigma (which is fair but still. Damaging.)
Kodel · 26-30, M
@Ratatouillesque In my opinion, there is no excuse for cheating.
I'm not saying that you can't be forgiven, but I'm saying that there is a cost to your actions and that cost is at least a part of trust. Relationship with no feelings or not, in my opinion, you should have ended things with your previous partner before starting things with another. I can understand how you feel like it's not as horrid as cheating on someone you have genuine feelings for but it's still cheating. It's dishonouring a commitment that was made. I'm sure that you probably see it a different way, but that's the way I see it.
I'm not saying that you can't be forgiven, but I'm saying that there is a cost to your actions and that cost is at least a part of trust. Relationship with no feelings or not, in my opinion, you should have ended things with your previous partner before starting things with another. I can understand how you feel like it's not as horrid as cheating on someone you have genuine feelings for but it's still cheating. It's dishonouring a commitment that was made. I'm sure that you probably see it a different way, but that's the way I see it.
SW-User
Not necessarily.
The predators who are always on the look out for another conquest I think they can't, or at least fund it incredibly hard, to stop. I'd expect them to always cheat.
However those that find themselves in a particular situation and loss the fight against feelings etc I think they'd likely only cheat once and never again
The predators who are always on the look out for another conquest I think they can't, or at least fund it incredibly hard, to stop. I'd expect them to always cheat.
However those that find themselves in a particular situation and loss the fight against feelings etc I think they'd likely only cheat once and never again
Coppercoil · M
CallmeJD · 51-55, M
no i don't think so. I think it is about maturity and people can change and grow into better versions of themselves.
PhoenixPhail · M
Not necessarily. I think cheating would feel bad to me, and would keep me from doing it again.
Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F
@PhoenixPhail correct.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
It's assumed that once you get away with something you'd get cocky and try again
Ratatouillesque · 26-30, F
@DrSunnyTheSkeptic thanks Frank. It's assumed. But I ain't doing that again.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
@Ratatouillesque Well good, hope you learned your lesson about it.
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For sure
SW-User
Yes.
Biffed · 26-30, M
yes
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
I believe it's the greatest predictor of future cheating, so yes.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
I feel that no I believe that for a fact