I Have Random Thoughts

@DarkSideoftheMoon having gone so long single I can't really see myself in the same boat. I get attached easily to people. I've always been inherently polyamorous but the only reason i'm "out of the closet" with it right now is Lyssa... if it wasn't for my primary I wouldn't have the courage to even admit it. I've been with girls... In monogamous arrangements. I didn't leave them. I'm typically the one that gets dumped. It's not really difficult to keep it in my pants but there's something different about my emotional pallat to that of monogamous people in that when i'm in a relationship the feelings don't eclipse all other emotions to the point where it's easy to block them out. I got used to keeping secrets from Mandy when I was with her. I guess what I'm saying is if I were in a solid commitment with someone I could be loyal. I was trying to pass as monogamous for years...

@BetweenKittensandRiots your honest about it now and if you both are on the same page its fine.

@DarkSideoftheMoon what is commitment anyways? in the light of having been in a long term polyamorous relationship I find myself sort of bitter at the fact that mononormative culture seems to water commitment down to sexual fidelity... WE all make sacrifices for the ones we love monogamous or not. I've had to let several people go who wouldn't put up with her because i'm not leaving her for ANYONE. I believe I AM committed. Sexual fidelity and commitment are two very different things in my eyes.

@DarkSideoftheMoon They want an excuse to cheat so they put the blame on the lady and not themselves. They are lost in confusion and are selfish backstabbers . If you're not ready to commit to a lady don't get involved with her in the first place . They can get one night stands until they are sure they want to settle down with a person

@SW-User manipulative basterds

@SW-User I ain't going anywhere... That's just my point. Nobodies going to make me forget how much I love her.