I Have Random Thoughts

@SW-User Yes, and so did my third paragraph lol

@IntenseCookie I don’t think there is anything to debate.

Two people bond. They do their “special dance.” If they really like each other, they throw all caution to the wind and forgo all physical and medical barriers.

Not many people out there say “let’s keep these physical and/or medical barriers and borrow some children!”

@SW-User Sex feels good so we spawn the babies. I understand why we want to spawn the babies. Human beings are still very primal.

But we're also pretty clever. There are a lot of us. We all know we're ridiculously overpopulated. We're in the midst of a sixth mass extinction and this one is caused by us.

There are a [i]lot[/i] of children who need homes. And even more adults who want children but refuse to take in the ones who already need them. They'd rather make a whole new person and give the one that didn't even exist- didn't initially need a home- a home.

I just wish we were smart enough to be like, "Wow. We're not roaches, we shouldn't procreate like them."

And it's not like an adopted child is any less yours. It may have came from someone else's sperm, formed from someone else's womb. But [i]you're[/i] the one rearing it into adulthood. [i]You're[/i] the parent to this child who previously had nothing.

Humanity has some understanding of resources.

Taking care of someone’s offspring is a huge drain on resources.

Why should I have I take care and use my resources to take care of another when I want my resources to be used for my children?

I know of many families who just start adopting after they have a few of their own. Great people with huge hearts. To suggest that everyone should completely ignore nature and just take care of others misfortune is futile.

@SW-User That's the thing. It's not someone else's kid. For whatever reason, whoever spawned the orphan is no longer in their lives. They absusive, unfit, dead. Whatever the case is, that kid shares nothing with their biological parents other than DNA.

You adopt the kid. You raise the kid. It's your child. That child will love you as their parents. Your not raising some one else's kid- that person is not their guardian. You are.

I'm not saying you should be forced to adopt as opposed to have your own baby. I just fail to understand the thought process of someone who says they love kids and wants the best for them, but won't open their homes up for the children who need them

@IntenseCookie Raising a child correctly takes a lot of effort. The partnership between the adults needs to be strong. The will to take care of these kids has to be as well.

We only have one child. I felt horrible for having an only child but our relationship just never seemed to peak to where we thought having a second was viable.

Later on, I felt guilty and considered fostering. Still, our co-parenting just doesn't seem strong enough for that stress.

Some people can't/shouldn't/won't raise kids (even if it is their DNA).

@SW-User Big families aren't for everyone. That's fine. I just feel like we should be more considerate towards those who currently need a home, not just shove them under the carpet and pretend they're not there