I Want To Write My Random Thoughts And Feelings
Internalizing the inadequacies of the world can create a lot of unnecessary emotional suffering for us in life. There's a particular person in my life who does this pretty much all the time, and it's the equivalent of watching somebody beat their own head against a wall, but not knowing how to stop (or that they're the only ones beating their head against a wall).
Try as we might, there really seems to be no way of getting through to somebody who is defiantly trying to prove their own suffering by using their suffering. It's a constant merry-go-round of "yeah, but..." type arguments. In this case, we really just have to leave people to it. Freewill is freewill; you get to use it as constructively or destructively as you like, and the entire thing will always give the appearance of working in your favour (even if it technically isn't).
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I've always known that it's 100% possible to know and be aware of something without that thing ever needing to control or dictate your feelings in any way. You can be aware of the fact that somebody is intending to hurt your feelings or that somebody is behaving in an unsavoury way. But unless you generate the need to retaliate or defend yourself, you can just let it wash through you like running water. You don't have to stamp your feet in moral outrage. You don't even have to do anything at all. Just keep to your silence. The only reason we feel personally involved in other people's drama and chaos is because we convince ourselves that we're the cause of other people's feelings - and this belief can be found absolutely everywhere on our planet. It permeates all our behaviours, our attitudes and philosophies in life...
But the actual underlying truth of all feelings - the good, the bad & the ugly - is that they're generated and caused by the person who's actually experiencing them, not the recipients of those feelings; not your neighbour, your colleague, friend or enemy.
Whenever it seems that something has caused us to feel a certain way, it's really just a way for our minds to rationalise the parts of us we don't like, the parts of us we deny and ignore, and to externalise ourselves into other people - to make them logically responsible for the things that are only ever being experienced by us alone.
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Try as we might, there really seems to be no way of getting through to somebody who is defiantly trying to prove their own suffering by using their suffering. It's a constant merry-go-round of "yeah, but..." type arguments. In this case, we really just have to leave people to it. Freewill is freewill; you get to use it as constructively or destructively as you like, and the entire thing will always give the appearance of working in your favour (even if it technically isn't).
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I've always known that it's 100% possible to know and be aware of something without that thing ever needing to control or dictate your feelings in any way. You can be aware of the fact that somebody is intending to hurt your feelings or that somebody is behaving in an unsavoury way. But unless you generate the need to retaliate or defend yourself, you can just let it wash through you like running water. You don't have to stamp your feet in moral outrage. You don't even have to do anything at all. Just keep to your silence. The only reason we feel personally involved in other people's drama and chaos is because we convince ourselves that we're the cause of other people's feelings - and this belief can be found absolutely everywhere on our planet. It permeates all our behaviours, our attitudes and philosophies in life...
But the actual underlying truth of all feelings - the good, the bad & the ugly - is that they're generated and caused by the person who's actually experiencing them, not the recipients of those feelings; not your neighbour, your colleague, friend or enemy.
Whenever it seems that something has caused us to feel a certain way, it's really just a way for our minds to rationalise the parts of us we don't like, the parts of us we deny and ignore, and to externalise ourselves into other people - to make them logically responsible for the things that are only ever being experienced by us alone.
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