If you’re dating someone who was cheated on, and they constantly act jealous, question you, accuse you then get angry at you for not reassuring them…
Wouldn’t you get sick of it?
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Tython · 31-35, M
My wife was like this, actually. We resolved it a long time ago, but the gist of what I said was:
I'm sorry you went through these things. No one deserves that kind of heart break. The best I can do is to give you my word I will never cheat or be unfaithful in any way. I hope you can give me a chance to prove this.
We then had a conversation on what boundaries to set(email and other highly personal things), what to do or say if either of us were feeling insecure or acting on our paranoia, and other things. It was rough at the beginning as we both had habits we needed to check, but in the end she finally trusted me.
This worked for us because we were both able and willing to change for the better of the other. Some people are unwilling or unable to make such changes. For the betterment of both, it's best to end such relationships.
I'm sorry you went through these things. No one deserves that kind of heart break. The best I can do is to give you my word I will never cheat or be unfaithful in any way. I hope you can give me a chance to prove this.
We then had a conversation on what boundaries to set(email and other highly personal things), what to do or say if either of us were feeling insecure or acting on our paranoia, and other things. It was rough at the beginning as we both had habits we needed to check, but in the end she finally trusted me.
This worked for us because we were both able and willing to change for the better of the other. Some people are unwilling or unable to make such changes. For the betterment of both, it's best to end such relationships.