I Have Something to Say

This is just a rant...a random thought. I remember a study in college psychology class. They took a number of men and women, (think it was 1000 each), and divided them into categories. I remember some, (slender, good looking/ over weight/good looking, over weight/ugly, and slender/ugly, balding, slender, balding/overweight)...might have been more but these are the ones that stick out in my memory. They were all taught the same sales spiel for the same product...and released on the public. The groups that did the best were the slender, good looking males and females. the group that faired the worst were balding, ugly, over weight males. Ok..."ugly" was not used to describe them, but I don't remember exactly what the word that was used to describe these groups. All I could think back then was, "wow...how absolutely devastating it would be to be lumped into one of the "less than attractive" groups! The point is, beautiful people have an advantage in life. I know now, being involved with a truly beautiful woman, that life for the truly beautiful isn't all roses either. People will look at them and automatically expect them to be stuck up, self centered, less than intelligent, egotistical, selfish. So...not one group can sail through life unscathed...but, I sure would like to know what it would be like to be considered one of the world's "pretty people". My girlfriend has always dated and had relationships with dynamic, successful handsome men...and, although I am still in good shape and fit, I do feel inadequate that I am not those things...and cannot help but wonder why she is with me. When I was young, I played a professional sport...in the military I was an officer and pilot...so, it didn't matter what I looked like, I still attracted women. but since I am older, am a has-been, I couldn't turn heads if I were covered in $100 bills and on fire. I hope she truly sees something in me that is worth her time and love. But, compared to the famous musicians and actors she has had in her life, I sure do feel inadequate. Just a rant...just some thoughts. I guess, late at night, all alone, my insecurities come out to haunt me like ghosts.

hopelesslyromanticman

markpaul...I don't know what to tell you. When I was young, I was a body builder and had a full head of hair...pro baseball player...and never had problems attracting really hot girls. Same when I was an officer and a pilot in the military...doesn't matter what you looked like in those positions, you could still attract the ladies. But, as I got older, had to start shaving my head, I looked in the mirror and realized that it was ONLY because of my statuses that ANY girl went out with me in high school, when I played ball, when I was in the military...had I not had those statuses, no women would have given me the time of day. My ex wife admitted in counseling that she never loved me. But now, at my age, I realize there's no magic...I am NEVER going to wake up attractive and what women want. I can't do anything about that. I keep myself in good physical condition...but...let's face it, even though I am in good condition, few people want to see a guy my age naked. So, I understand. I walk around with my head down, hoping people aren't staring at me. Part of my insecurities with my lady is that I feel she could quite possibly be embarrassed by me. I don't know. But, I have to live with myself, no matter what. I am sure you aren't as unattractive as you think you are...so I have been told...LOL...and I take it, you have the same insecurities I have. Some woman will see inside you some day.