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We’ve been together for 17 years and I’m only now seeing who he really is.

He’s become increasingly childish and expects recognition for doing the bare minimum like taking us out, feeding us, mowing the lawn or doing a little bit of renovation work. It shouldn’t feel like we owe gratitude for basic responsibilities.
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MisterBander
Maybe he is feeling like nobody notices anything he does. I know I think that way a lot. He feels invisible, so when he does something he wants some kind of acknowledgement.
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Iwillwait · M
Taking you out, Providing for you, fixing stuff, mowing the lawn, I am not sure what you're expecting?
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GunFinger · F
@OogieBoogie yes, we all do thank him when he does them because it seems like he asks for them. If not, I cook for him, make his coffee, do things a wife and a mother do because I believe actions speak louder.
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Iwillwait · M
@GunFinger That may be a emotional maturity thing or security. Perhaps he is needing some sort of validation that he matters, do you provide positive feedback and encouragement? Do you priase him, and show him appreciation for the life you have together? Does he praise you and show you appreciation?

Perhaps both of you are missing some important Love Language items of one another...
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GunFinger · F
@Iwillwait yes, he always needs validation so I always praise him for the things he's done and tell the truth when I need to.
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Shayama · FVIP
Oh Sorry 😞
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AbsolutelyFabulous · F
Like if he has to be asked and praised for everything he does... That's a red flag..
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FreeorLonely · 51-55, F
Oh crap, I’m sorry, that’s gut wrenching especially after all those years. 😔
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Unquestioned · 70-79, M
Are you making his breakfast and cooking him dinner?
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