Omg texting people sometimes gets nowhere.

I said hope next week will be better. Not be on the phones too much anymore and we can take good care and start concentrating on ourselves and be more productive.

I thought he got that. It was pretty obvious what I meant.

His reply was yeah hope to get better and the weather is good too.

Do you think he even read my message? I feel like he doesn't want to change it is so frustrating. Then when I bring up the phones he puts it all back on me that I'm at fault. I don't even have my phone anymore when I'm with him.

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AbsolutelyFabulous · F

Then when I bring up the phones he puts it all back on me that I'm at fault. I don't even have my phone anymore when I'm with him.

DARVO... That's what he's doing to you...

Deny, attack, reverse the argument and changes himself from being offender to being the victim

Can you hold him accountable for ANYTHING..
will he actually say sorry and accept anything that he's done wrong??
Can you say no to him..

BrandNewMan · 61-69, M

@AbsolutelyFabulous That has to go both ways ..

AbsolutelyFabulous · F

@BrandNewMan I am asking her if he will actually accept if he's ever wrong or if he skirts around it and then tries to make the issue her problem, if he NEVER can accept he's ever wrong about anything.. Then he's never looking to resolve anything he's happy with the chaos.

It's got nothing to do with working both ways..

BrandNewMan · 61-69, M

@AbsolutelyFabulous

It absolutely matters.

There is an indication here he sees some issue on her part for the same issue. I'm not judging either side, just saying they both have to be accepting of their role in an issue and willing to make adjustments .. not just him.

If you cant see that as legitimate ..

AbsolutelyFabulous · F

@BrandNewMan you're not understanding MY question to her.

The Issues aside.

... Nothing to do with the arguments.

I'm asking if he can ever accept if he's ever wrong, or if he will just always divrrt it away from him

BrandNewMan · 61-69, M

@AbsolutelyFabulous I actually do understand.

He's raised the same issue to her and you are labeling that push back as DARVO. What if his suggestion its not just him .. is actually valid?

AbsolutelyFabulous · F

@BrandNewMan omgoodness 🫣🤐

BrandNewMan · 61-69, M

@AbsolutelyFabulous Exactly .. jeez

AbsolutelyFabulous · F

And a brandnewman blocked me 😐👀👀