I Have Something to Say

It's been 10 years since my eldest son drowned :( people tell me I should be over it now. I want to say to those who have lost a loved one.... it is ok to greave no matter how long it has been. Hugs

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silentwriter180 · 56-60, F

I still grieve for someone I lost 20 years ago. The thing is to not let it control your life or who you are. Occasionally, I'll go have a good cry at the park. But I don't let it get to me everyday. {{{Hugs}}}

tacomasr5 · 51-55, M

that is good. we usually do ok, but this morning I was in Home Depot looking at tools when it hit me, I saw the tools I had planed on buying for him to help remodel his home. big sigh and walk on. thanks for the hug :)

silentwriter180 · 56-60, F

Understandable. I have those moments as well. Whether it be something I see that reminds me of him, or someone who sounds like him, a dream I've had, or just a simple thought. It's all still there, and he will always have a piece of my heart no matter how many years pass. And, when I lose someone else in the more recent years, I know they are now together. One thing I made a point of is picking a special place close by. I call it my sanctuary. It's the one place I go to when I feel I need to let go. Whether it be for him or my father or anyone else I need to cry for or "speak to". It's 'our' special place. You might want to do that for yourself. Of course everyone is different, so I can't make any guarantees that it will work for you, but it might help. xo

tacomasr5 · 51-55, M

thank you silent xo