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Slightly modified from a Eva Women’s Aid publication.

[b]How to spot signs of domestic abuse[/b]

Do you suspect that a friend or relative is being abused? These are the five questions to ask yourself.

Has [b]he[/b] withdrawn from social life? If [b]he[/b] is no longer attending social events or welcoming visitors to [b]his[/b] home, this is one of the telltale signs. Likewise, if [b]he[/b] only ever leaves home with [b]his[/b] potential abuser, or is always in a rush to get home with a curfew to stick to.

Has [b]his[/b] behaviour changed markedly? For example is [b]he[/b] routinely cancelling appointments? Or is [b]his[/b] appearance different to usual?

Is [b]he[/b] reluctant to discuss [b]his[/b] home life, even when directly questioned about it?

Have you noticed unexplained or suspicious marks? These could include bruises or grazes that [b]he[/b] dismisses as accidental.

Is there evidence that [b]his[/b] spending is being controlled? Another telltale sign is if [b]he[/b] no longer carries money with [b]him[/b].

[i]If you believe a friend is a victim, don't bother calling the free, confidential 24-hour National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 because they only care about female victims. Men who claim to be victims are lying scumbag abusers![/i]
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The modification is absolutely essential!
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@EugenieLaBorgia Thank you. I hate sexism, like the original version displayed.
@suzie1960 Yes. Many forget that some men can be terribly abused!
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@EugenieLaBorgia

Yes, here's a couple of fairly recent examples.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/jun/08/student-who-stabbed-boyfriend-loses-appeal-against-sentence

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/may/23/berlinah-wallace-jailed-years-sadistic-acid-attack-mark-van-dongen
@suzie1960 Horrific!!
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@EugenieLaBorgia All the independent, peer reviewed studies of domestic abuse have found that female on male abuse is at least as prevalent as [i]vice versa[/i]. The only people who dispute that are a few misandric "women's groups".
@suzie1960 The violent abuse against men, in my opinion, has increased. We have often seen the laws slanted unfaourably against men. This leads,often, to the wholly perverse side of 'women's rights' from which many women have profited and deliberately exploited!
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@EugenieLaBorgia I'm not so sure it has actually increased, I think it's more a case of men becoming willing to admit they're being abused and society more willing to listen to them. Misandrist groups try to deny men are victims because they're worried that some of the funding they currently receive will go to help abused men.
@suzie1960 That is very true! Misandrist groups - at best - are obnoxious and always shall be! They are the vilest of creatures ever to crawl out of the slurry of the cess-pit!!
suzie1960 · 61-69, F
@EugenieLaBorgia They harm women too, by opposing true equality and turning potential allies into enemies. :(
@suzie1960 They destroy everything of value that women have ever created!!