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Can someone tell me how to get over this guy? It's been 2 years, maybe more than that since i met him(Let's call him E). I met him for 5-10 minutes at the most. I don't know much about him other than through his face book posts. For 2 years, i secretly liked him(I don't even know why). I wasn't able to date anyone or move on because of this guy. I met a guy J once in a bar. He is a nice guy.He asked me out and i rejected him because I hopelessly like this guy E. E got engaged and posted a picture of him and his girlfriend. I still liked him as a friend. A month ago i removed E from my face book because he is too much of a distraction. Last night, on newyear's eve I went to bar again. I met this another guy Ever. He is calm and composed. After a small chat, he left me for few minutes that's when I remembered this E guy(we barely met and he left within 5 minutes). I went to restroom and cried. I came back and Ever guy left already. I messaged this E on face book, saying I still like him(I was too drunk).

Can someone tell how to move on. I barely know him and don't know why i like him so much.
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DistilledSpirit · 41-45, M
You met for only 10 minutes, and are pining over him for 2 years and crying in the bathroom? This isn’t healthy.

It’s important for you to realize that you don’t like E. You don’t even know him. You have created a version of him in your head, based on your obsessive Facebook stalking, and are infatuated with the fantasy. At this point it has nothing to do with him, he’s just become the outlet for your own insecurities and desires.

You don’t need to “get over” E - there’s nothing to get over. What you need is to make the changes in yourself and your life so that you can control your obsessive behaviour before it leads you somewhere worse.

Talking about it will be good. It seems like you’ve probably been keeping all of this a secret from your friends and family, but you need to try to find someone you can confide in about all of this.
Great post. Well said. @DistilledSpirit