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Can someone tell me how to get over this guy? It's been 2 years, maybe more than that since i met him(Let's call him E). I met him for 5-10 minutes at the most. I don't know much about him other than through his face book posts. For 2 years, i secretly liked him(I don't even know why). I wasn't able to date anyone or move on because of this guy. I met a guy J once in a bar. He is a nice guy.He asked me out and i rejected him because I hopelessly like this guy E. E got engaged and posted a picture of him and his girlfriend. I still liked him as a friend. A month ago i removed E from my face book because he is too much of a distraction. Last night, on newyear's eve I went to bar again. I met this another guy Ever. He is calm and composed. After a small chat, he left me for few minutes that's when I remembered this E guy(we barely met and he left within 5 minutes). I went to restroom and cried. I came back and Ever guy left already. I messaged this E on face book, saying I still like him(I was too drunk).

Can someone tell how to move on. I barely know him and don't know why i like him so much.

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DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

You need to realise you only saw a tiny fraction of this E guy. The rest of him is as unknown as the guy sitting in front of you on the bus. Online presence is but a tiny tiny part of you, if you spend any time here you will know that to be true. So, when you truly see that, you will realise it is OK to like that part, a lot. But it is also not OK to be fooled by it. The unknown is not something you can love. Does that help at all?

Sireeshak · 41-45, F

@DreamCoCreators Yes, i only saw a tiny fraction of E but he is overshadowing other people i met like J and Ever. I don't want it to be like that. I just want to get over and want to be able to feel the feeling of having a crush, physically getting attracted to someone ..so forth

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

@Sireeshak then the only thing I can think is you believe in that tiny part you saw. So to overcome it you must push yourself harder to believe the other 99% of him could be anything. You can't love anything.