I Have a Question

So I was just talking with my friend that's a guy. We were talking about his dating life and he was saying how he wants a girl that's younger than him...like in her 20s. He's in his 50s. Well okay nothing wrong with liking younger women. Like more power to you.

So then he told me he wants to marry and have kids with this younger girl. I said okay but also told him that he's most likely going to find that in someone who's older...like 30+. He got pissed because I said that.

So let me ask you guys this: Isn't he MOST LIKELY (key word) to find someone who's older that wants the things he wants? A family, marriage, maturity. It's very rare that a 20 something year old wants all of that responsibility. They wanna have fun. Experience life. Not be tied down.

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firefall · 61-69, M

Honestly, I don't think he's most likely to find that with an older (30s age) woman, because they are more likely to be aware of his flaws & drawbacks, from bitter experience usually, and more likely to be self-assertive and wanting their own goals.
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There are plenty of 20ish girls who mostly want to get married and have kids, and look for or expect the implicit power imbalance (in exchange for being supported): the urge for fun, experience, and not being tied down in your 20s seems to link fairly strongly with the privilege with which someone is brought up (if you get raised in a relatively stable upper-middle class household, you are much more likely to value independance, experiences, fun; if you get raised in a working poor household, security and stability will often be more appealing at that point in your life).