I Have a Question

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Do you think attitudes to sex are intrinsically different in straight men and women, because in essence men are physically entering another person, whereas women are allowing another person to enter their body?

My feeling is that despite it being consensual, it must be so much more difficult to let your guard down and allow someone literally inside you as a woman. As a (pretty crap) metaphor, you would be comfortable poking someone in the ear, but maybe not so relaxed if someones finger was in yours.

Spoiler alert. I know the answers to this question are going to go horribly, controversially wrong but I'd prefer it if they didn't...

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CheshireCatalyst · 41-45, M

@GeniUs I think you're right about the use of the word control. But I think when a woman is on top what she is controlling is the amount of control you have over her. Think about it from this perspective, you're in the final round of the world mud-wrestling championships with Al "Big Al" McGraw, eight times mud-wrestling champion of the world. Big Al has mounted you and he's got two fingers up your nose, so you roll him, now you're on top and you get to choose how deep his muddy fingers get. Now the control is shared.

Obviously again the metaphor doesn't cut it because sex is awesome and everyone knows that mud-wrestling with Big Al is not a fun day out. He plays dirty. In every way.

@penguinswon thanks man, I do a lot of ear poking in my spare time I figured it was similar :)