I Have a Question

Okay, so I've been on a couple of dating sites, one for a few months and the other for just a few days now. I've sent lots of different kinds of messages to many different women, and still nobody (as in 0) has replied to me. It's not like I'm asking them to marry me; hell, I'm not even asking them to go out with me! I'm just trying to start some conversation, and I might as well be talking to the wall. Nobody will give me the time of day. Is there some kind of secret to getting people to reply to your messages?

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Alexiavoidburg · 26-30, F

I am also on a few different dating sights. What kinds of things do you normally send to people as a first message?

JP1119 · 36-40, M

I almost always say hi, I'm John and tell them they look cute in their pics. Then I usually ask them about something that they seem to be interested in. But it's been months since I've tried. I messaged so many girls, and the only one that would reply to me wasn't interested in meeting up with anybody.

Alexiavoidburg · 26-30, F

try a totally different approach. Make a cheesy joke or something. Going in for the romance kill sometimes freaks girls out. Stay casual at first then slowly introduce flattery and romance once you're well established. It sounds crazy, but for some reason it works