So, when you're in love, do you believe what you see or what you want to see?

I think it can be both but I fall for what the person shows me of themselves and how they make me feel but looks can be part of the equation too...I believe i am a realist so I dont get in a fantasy mode until they start showing things about themselves that I'm starting not to like/love because we want to continue to like/ love them so we become blind to the negative things we dont like...I however believe you fall in love with how a person makes you feel and that includes many things...personality ,what you have in common, and really just who they are and how you react and interact with each other like a connection ,chemistry,but that could also include the vision too....You can fall in love early on(love at first sight) but its not wise you can have love for them but with restraint till dont allow yourself to fully fall till you know them better to see if the love your feeling in is fact real and how deep it is,that takes time to know and flourish and grow. into "true" love.The problem with this is people generally put their best foot forward in the beginning and many also lie trying to "get" you, as they can have ulterior motives. I have learned the hard way you have to hold yourself back till you give it enough time to see if they are who you think they are and also you'll discover more about a person the more time you take to get to know them. Then you will know if who they showed in the beginning was in fact who they really are. I do think you can love unconditionally from day one ...Loving unconditionally is a personal choice its they way a person loves. I dont believe love becomes unconditional, I think its the way in which a person chooses to love someone.

I became wonderstruck n sprung n flew way up high on a nimbus to cloud 9 n but I saw a fear come to life before my eyes n I lost my happy thought. The magic faded away n the cloud began to dissipate n I fell from heaven n slammed down to the concrete n my heart shattered to pieces. My soul became injured n cold, my wings snapped n my feathers torn to shreds. I'm broken n I'll never fly again.

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I am a realist when it comes to romance. That's not to say my heart has no role, it takes a backseat to my head though.

Awe thanks ..lol ..and your right it should..as it would save a lot of broken hearts and wasted time.

I fall in love with the vision and then end up heartbroken.

I believe that you grow to love someone. You lust at the beginning but then the lust turns to love. Love becomes unconditional.

I am painfully realistic.. I think a sense of true realism can breed long, loving, realistic love relationships..

You will be much happier if you love a person as they really are - instead of loving what you think they could be.

:( It was sad.. But it was such a treat for my imagination, and the song was a feast for my eyes and ears. Thank you.

it was magnificent

I dont think so. You dont at first sight love someone unconditionally. You need to first get to know that person for your love to grow unless its your children. That is unconditional love at first sight.

most things that happen by accident or not looking has tended to be so much better then the ones wanting ;)

I totally agree with you, it is actually a very strong foundation of a relationship

Msmargaux, this was LOVE 101, it must be taught at school :)

ok, then I am writing you in the "i am so realistic in love" category :)

oh that's me Fungirl! I know what you mean.

Wanting something won't make it a reality.

happy accidents I love them..

Shrugs.. Who knows..

oh dig deeper

I can always remember later noticing certain things or wondering about certain things, but at the time, it seems no amount of sense has ever been able to dim the stars in my eyes.

Yes Gallantio if you are keeping a clean mind on the subject... If not then you don't understand

I thought unconditional love is the love at first sight

Some says that I build and live in my Disney fairy tale :)

exactly, a whole lot of wasted times :)

😊 ignorance is bliss? Lol

i guess so..