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Have you ever longed for someone even though they hurt you?

The space to grieve someone is so filled with the happy times, I hate it.
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Think many of us have been there . It's hard to forget that pain ...but if you can turn that pain into growing yourself then it can be a positive thing . There is so much we can learn about ourselves and others when we go through pain and hurt ....First and foremost value yourself....
We have a tendency to romantize relationships...we aren't seeing this person for who they really are ...it takes time to process but it's up to us to be proactive in healing ourselves...the best part of this is we get to choose the story we tell ourselves
fun4us2b · M
@ScreamingFox It's the idea of them that we pine for, not the actual person...
@ScreamingFox we don't have to ...we can value ourselves more by putting the same effort and energy into ourselves as we put in others ...that's not being selfish...it's self preservation..... it's easy to get caught up in this mindset of focusing on the hurt and pain rather than focusing on what the pain is trying to teach us ...there's nothing wrong with wanting to feel loved and wanting to be treated well .... you attract what you are willing to tolerate
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@fun4us2b true
stayfickle · 26-30, F
Yes. To the point I had to beg him to stay.
Even though I knew he was destroying my faith for anyone.
He keeps knocking on my inbox every few years. Or on platforms we used to use.

Hope you find it in you to not settle for less :(
Yes, but not for long. In my opinion, it is usually because that person was hurt, by me or someone else, and rather than addressing it, just want to share their pain.

That’s not my definition of ‘friend.’ A friend is not someone I need to approach by walking on eggs.
Teslin · M
My first love.
faery · F
Yes, and there were happy times but that doesn't change the important facts
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@faery truth. I want my brain to get it
FreeorLonely · 51-55, F
Unfortunately, yes
I could have someone that checks every single box but there'd still be this giant void that only that one other person could fill.
SleepingWithGhosts · 46-50, M
Very much so.
SUPERVlXEN · F
I’ve tried similar, on occasions.
SpectralMourning · 41-45, M
Certainly. My brain sure knows how to wax poetically.
Not for long. Once they’re mean to me, I want to be away.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@bijouxbroussard smart cookie
...devastated me
Kiesel · 56-60, M
Yes
It’s fucking painful too….
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