Sometimes it is, yeah. It depends on the situation at hand. If one person is too overwhelmed by the conflict but the other person wants to talk about it & work it out, no amount of talking will solve anything. It will only aggravate the situation even more. Sometimes we can't talk anything out DURING the conflict. No matter how much WE might need it, the other person might need the opposite. Denying them that can even be selfish at times. & It never gets many positive responses out of the person.
I'm usually the one who wants to talk things out & has a hard time letting it go until it's solved... I get that way because it feels like I can't relax until I solve everything. I just want peace & understanding. But these days I've been learning that we can't fix everything for people. Especially if they won't let us. Just because we're capable of talking things out, doesn't mean it's always the right time to do it.
