Is the need to talk things through and work out an agreement/compromise during conflict a toxic trait?

@Achelois I want to be to that point. I know it, I can get to it sometimes, but then I want to believe in people. That is my problem

@ScreamingFox believe what they show you, honestly it’s freeing.

I was the biggest people pleaser going, until I just one day stopped, I had family tell lies and involve me in it, they enabled each other, lol 😂 which was even more crazy.

I’d stay quiet and not say anything, I knew they were lying.
Last year I pulled the plaster off and exposed it all. After more lies, obviously I’m the bad guy and they defended themselves but I know they are fake as.

@Achelois that sounds exactly like my family. I'm the bad guy for calling out a child molester...

I just can't help but wonder, if that is their reality, what makes me think I know right from wrong? If molestation, secrets and avoidance is their way, we both think the other is wrong, who is the delusional one?

Maybe that's why it shouldn't hurt? Because we live in separate realities and neither of us will change?

At what point did we make the choice to divide and why aren't I the bad guy for upholding the truth. We all know well that the truth hurts too. Do they avoid pain? Is their avoidance simply human?

And if so what are we that can choose the hurt from truth because it spares others? It happens in nature, just as the other does.

Then why am I hurt at all?

Maybe I just don't have one person in my real life that is like me. I see people here though 🖤

@ScreamingFox

Many people live with masks 🎭 they pretend to be a certain person, for whatever reason, pain, religion, etc.


You’re hurt because you aren’t heard, you speak up but no one hears you, they choose to let it be swept under the rug.

No one wants to take accountability for it, so they choose to ignore your pain.

Which leaves you wondering, did it really happen, who am I, I felt this but is it true, so you question yourself, instead of speaking up and questioning the real truth.

This leaves you In a loop of thoughts.

@Achelois a distorted reality

@ScreamingFox absolutely!!! They believ the lies. I watched a video recently about it, I’ll try and find it.