My ex-wife eventually decided to go through therapy.
Part of which involved explaining to those they'd treated badly why they did what they did.
She wrote to me three times asking if I'd be willing to attend a meeting with her Therapist to go through this process.
I took my time making the decision because to be honest, I want nothing to do with her.
I could see it might benefit her, but saw nothing of worth in it for me.
Eventually I agreed to a meeting with her Therapist present.
I listened to everything she wanted to say.
Listened to the Therapist's interjections. But said nothing.
It was just a long litany of excuses for her behaviour at the time and proved she took no responsibility for how her actions affected those around her at the time.
I think she said the word sorry twice in half an hour of explanation.
Once she'd finished the Therapist asked me if I understood how difficult this process was for her.
..wasn't sure if I wanted to slap her or storm out !
I said I'm wondering if she's been entirely honest with you about what she actually did.
Because no amount of apologising would make me feel better about it.
And then I left.
